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HELP!!!!! 8 year old boy with- ADHD has me in tears!
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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 402012" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Welcome. Sorry you need us but glad we're here for you.</p><p></p><p>On the medications front - we found rebound problems with ritalin with both our boys. difficult child 1 (check te code in my sig - difficult child stands for "Gift From God", the child that brought us here) took ritalin to begin with and managed a bit better, but as he got older and needed more, we found there were problems as it was wearing off, he would swing back behaviour-wise to be much worse tan when he had been before medication. </p><p></p><p>So we were put onto an alternative - dexamphetamine. The sustained-release stuff has to be made up for us privately, but has made a big difference.</p><p></p><p>The doctor tried difficult child 3 on Strattera two years ago, it was horrible. After three days he was violent and argumentative, but not making a lot of sense. He felt persecuted, physically attacked me and really, we should have taken him to the ER it was so bad. and we NEVER go to the ER for behaviour issues!</p><p></p><p>We did try difficult child 3 on Concerta (long-acting ritalin, basically) and found he also had rebound problems and it just wasn't as good. So it's back to the more expensive (for us) dex.</p><p></p><p>You are struggling with isolation by the sound of it, as well as a need to work a lot out for yourself. We had to do that - there are services here, but we live in a fairly isolated community and it is too far to get to most of the services we need. We had to invent our own.</p><p></p><p>So what helped us - this website. WHo recommended a book, "The Explosive Child" which helped me change direction somewhat on how I handled my child. Learning to trust my own instincts, learning to have confidence in my own decisions concerning my child.</p><p></p><p>Homework is a common battle - we had to find other ways of handling that one. School problems stay as school problems, we refused to engage. If difficult child 3 was home sick from school, then I got him to do his homework. Any school work. But otherwise - natural consequences.</p><p></p><p>In trying to engage your child, try the following:</p><p></p><p>1) try to use a teamwork approach - "let's do this together." Or "I'll do tis, while you do that. Let's see who finishes first. When you are done with your bit, we can both reward ourselves with a milk and cookies break."</p><p></p><p>2) Task-changing is often a problem especially if he is playing a game. We found we had to give timed warnings, and also keep it light and not 'heavy' and 'disciplining parent/avenging angel'. </p><p></p><p>There can be so many factors adding to your son's problems, it's not all the disability, not alone. medications won't make it all better like magic, they only make it easier to deal with what's left.</p><p></p><p>Another tip with reading - read together. I used to do this with difficult child 3 - we would read the same book. We would take turns reading the dialogue and put on funny voices and act it out. We made a game of it, it really helped. That made it less of a lesson, and a lot more fun.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 402012, member: 1991"] Welcome. Sorry you need us but glad we're here for you. On the medications front - we found rebound problems with ritalin with both our boys. difficult child 1 (check te code in my sig - difficult child stands for "Gift From God", the child that brought us here) took ritalin to begin with and managed a bit better, but as he got older and needed more, we found there were problems as it was wearing off, he would swing back behaviour-wise to be much worse tan when he had been before medication. So we were put onto an alternative - dexamphetamine. The sustained-release stuff has to be made up for us privately, but has made a big difference. The doctor tried difficult child 3 on Strattera two years ago, it was horrible. After three days he was violent and argumentative, but not making a lot of sense. He felt persecuted, physically attacked me and really, we should have taken him to the ER it was so bad. and we NEVER go to the ER for behaviour issues! We did try difficult child 3 on Concerta (long-acting ritalin, basically) and found he also had rebound problems and it just wasn't as good. So it's back to the more expensive (for us) dex. You are struggling with isolation by the sound of it, as well as a need to work a lot out for yourself. We had to do that - there are services here, but we live in a fairly isolated community and it is too far to get to most of the services we need. We had to invent our own. So what helped us - this website. WHo recommended a book, "The Explosive Child" which helped me change direction somewhat on how I handled my child. Learning to trust my own instincts, learning to have confidence in my own decisions concerning my child. Homework is a common battle - we had to find other ways of handling that one. School problems stay as school problems, we refused to engage. If difficult child 3 was home sick from school, then I got him to do his homework. Any school work. But otherwise - natural consequences. In trying to engage your child, try the following: 1) try to use a teamwork approach - "let's do this together." Or "I'll do tis, while you do that. Let's see who finishes first. When you are done with your bit, we can both reward ourselves with a milk and cookies break." 2) Task-changing is often a problem especially if he is playing a game. We found we had to give timed warnings, and also keep it light and not 'heavy' and 'disciplining parent/avenging angel'. There can be so many factors adding to your son's problems, it's not all the disability, not alone. medications won't make it all better like magic, they only make it easier to deal with what's left. Another tip with reading - read together. I used to do this with difficult child 3 - we would read the same book. We would take turns reading the dialogue and put on funny voices and act it out. We made a game of it, it really helped. That made it less of a lesson, and a lot more fun. Marg [/QUOTE]
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