samsheather
New Member
Ok I'm the newest newbie and here's my dilemma (I'll try and keep it short.) We have a 5 almost 6 year old who has gotten herself into such a powerstruggle (especially with potty training) that I am darn near out of my mind. She refuses to potty train and a big part of the problem is that she doesn't care if she's wet or dirty - it does not gross her out. Just recently I sent her to go change after school and mentioned she should go potty first. (Now I should mention that these instructions were about a half an hour after finding out that most of her friends were going to Chuck E CHeese's for the night and I told her we couldn't go due to funds.) So after about a minute I followed her up stairs because I knew right aftre school she'd need to go to the bathroom. I wanted to make sure she went. I find her in her room sitting a stuffed animal that she had already peed on. Now it took a lot to remain calm or atleast not explode. So after making her get off of it I asked her "why did you do this.......You know this isn't right." All she could do was try not to smile at me. She thinks it's incredibly funny to get me going this way. Now that is just one instance. But we're talking about a child that has fingerpainted with her poop and also thinks it's funny. I have tried everything And I DO mean EVERYTHING to help her be successful with potty trainging. And I have been really careful to rule out anything physical. Her DR and I have been working together on this for awhile and we are both convinced that there is nothing going on physically. The reward system always works. She always seems to do really well when we keep track with a sticker chart. And it's not only the potty trainging that we deal with. She does things that are so defiant that it takes more energy for her to do them than to do what it is we've asked of her. Grrrrr. She hides things/takes things. She lies. She starting to become pretty aggressive toward her older sister (especially when she's tired and provoked - even minutely). She yells at me so often that I am desensitized to her crying even when she's truley hurt.
Now I also want to mention that we are waiting to have her evaluated for possible Auditory Processing Disorder. She has struggled a lot acedemically this year. She was very young starting Kindergarten and her teacher and my husband and I feel she is finally up to grade level. But that has taken all year. We have made the descision to have her repeat kindergarten. She has had her hearing tested with no negative reports but she does not seem to understand or gets so side tracked most the time that she very rarley does what we ask. Her reaction to any sort of disappointment is to pout, cry or scream. I can't describe with words the anger that comes out of this child. And I'm usually the only one who sees it. Her dad does some but it's mostly saved for me.
I am so at my whits end there are times I just walk out of the house and sit in my car and scream. I need help. She needs help. We have just recently started to see a counselor but I worry that this woman will never experience my daughters anger.
Any thoughts or advice are truley appreciated....
Now I also want to mention that we are waiting to have her evaluated for possible Auditory Processing Disorder. She has struggled a lot acedemically this year. She was very young starting Kindergarten and her teacher and my husband and I feel she is finally up to grade level. But that has taken all year. We have made the descision to have her repeat kindergarten. She has had her hearing tested with no negative reports but she does not seem to understand or gets so side tracked most the time that she very rarley does what we ask. Her reaction to any sort of disappointment is to pout, cry or scream. I can't describe with words the anger that comes out of this child. And I'm usually the only one who sees it. Her dad does some but it's mostly saved for me.
I am so at my whits end there are times I just walk out of the house and sit in my car and scream. I need help. She needs help. We have just recently started to see a counselor but I worry that this woman will never experience my daughters anger.
Any thoughts or advice are truley appreciated....