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Help her? Let her sink? What's a mom of an 18 yr old to do?
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 210617" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I like the Narc-Alon meeting for YOUR sake. You will get sooooooo much support and real time good ideas. Chances are she is using drugs and is far more involved with them than you can even imagine. Sadly, this happened to us. My daughter quit drugs and we hadn't even known that, beyond pot, she was using any. Jokes on us, huh? But that explained why she was acting the way she was. We also thought she had a serious mood disorder. Yeah, well, taking amphetamines, downers, over the counter medications in excess, and a little ecstasy and coke will make you act bipolar or depressed for sure. How did we not know? We were naive combined with her really being able to fake being sober. Plus she did most of the drugs at night when we were sleeping. She would often jimmy her bedroom window, leave the house, then be back and asleep by the time we woke up, window back in place. We knew very little about what she was doing, yet we thought we were right on top of her. We even kept her homeschooled. When we went out of town for an overnight and came home early to find a drug party going on, we finally got a clue. We gave her the choice of a drug rehab or leaving our home as our two minor children were horrified, and we knew we were NOT helping her by letting her live at home. She chose to leave and was lucky enough that her out-of-state straight arrow brother offered her a place to stay...as long as she followed his rules. She changed as soon as she got away from her bad influence friends, but it took a few years for her to get her driver's license back and a decent job. By her own admission, making her leave was the best thing we'd done. Her brother is a Born Again Christian and she knew for a fact he'd throw her out if she even smoked a cigarette in his house and she had nowhere else to go. Plus she wanted to straighten out but couldn't do it around her friends. </p><p>I would have made her leave even if brother hadn't offered her a place to stay. I personally feel there is more drugs going on than you think. Under those conditions, Prozac won't help, nothing will help.</p><p>If you keep her home, make sure you give her plenty of surprise drug tests. Also, remember that not all drugs show up.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 210617, member: 1550"] I like the Narc-Alon meeting for YOUR sake. You will get sooooooo much support and real time good ideas. Chances are she is using drugs and is far more involved with them than you can even imagine. Sadly, this happened to us. My daughter quit drugs and we hadn't even known that, beyond pot, she was using any. Jokes on us, huh? But that explained why she was acting the way she was. We also thought she had a serious mood disorder. Yeah, well, taking amphetamines, downers, over the counter medications in excess, and a little ecstasy and coke will make you act bipolar or depressed for sure. How did we not know? We were naive combined with her really being able to fake being sober. Plus she did most of the drugs at night when we were sleeping. She would often jimmy her bedroom window, leave the house, then be back and asleep by the time we woke up, window back in place. We knew very little about what she was doing, yet we thought we were right on top of her. We even kept her homeschooled. When we went out of town for an overnight and came home early to find a drug party going on, we finally got a clue. We gave her the choice of a drug rehab or leaving our home as our two minor children were horrified, and we knew we were NOT helping her by letting her live at home. She chose to leave and was lucky enough that her out-of-state straight arrow brother offered her a place to stay...as long as she followed his rules. She changed as soon as she got away from her bad influence friends, but it took a few years for her to get her driver's license back and a decent job. By her own admission, making her leave was the best thing we'd done. Her brother is a Born Again Christian and she knew for a fact he'd throw her out if she even smoked a cigarette in his house and she had nowhere else to go. Plus she wanted to straighten out but couldn't do it around her friends. I would have made her leave even if brother hadn't offered her a place to stay. I personally feel there is more drugs going on than you think. Under those conditions, Prozac won't help, nothing will help. If you keep her home, make sure you give her plenty of surprise drug tests. Also, remember that not all drugs show up. [/QUOTE]
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