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<blockquote data-quote="slsh" data-source="post: 163265" data-attributes="member: 8"><p>Night - thanks for the background info - it helps to put it in perspective. Kudos to you and husband for taking on the challenge of raising these boys, especially when you are raising an older child with special needs.</p><p> </p><p>I would run fast and furiously from any psychiatrist who suggests punishment for sexualized behavior. I'm just a mom but that is counterintuitive in my book. Ditto with emphasizing that it's wrong and illegal - it just isn't going to matter to a kid, but *especially* to a 7- and 4-year-old.</p><p> </p><p>My son has a history of sexualized behavior at a young age (starting about 7 or 8) but it was not predatory per se. More like open to any suggestions from peers, which was especially a problem when he was in RTCs. He did go to a therapist recommended by DCFS who specialized in this kind of stuff, in fact she did training for DCFS staff. There are folks who focus on this but it takes a bit of digging to find them.</p><p> </p><p>I don't mean to be alarmist but I really think you're dealing with a situation that has the potential to get more dangerous very quickly. DCFS may have closed the first case but heaven forbid if another child in daycare or school becomes involved. </p><p> </p><p>Resources - gosh, I think I'd start with a full evaluation at a Children's or university hospital with not only a neuropsychologist but also with a specialist in child abuse and/or sexualized behavoir as well as Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD). I honestly don't know a whole lot about Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) other than the kids can be very *very* resistant to treatment. And I don't mean to imply that 7-year-old was abused (though even 1 incident with an adult is abuse), but in my very limited experience, kids who are so young who are SR generally have extensive histories of abuse, so I would think a professional who works in that specialized field would be the person best qualified to start addressing these issues.</p><p> </p><p>I would very strongly recommend getting very assertive about getting them into the properly trained professionals *now*. Hysterical mom is a strategy that has worked for me and I think it's called for here - you have 2 extremely young children who are perpetrating against each other. I think the risk of it spreading to outside the family is huge.</p><p> </p><p>Does the 7-year-old have an IEP? If not, I would strongly recommend getting an evaluation started. The very first accommodation I would demand is a 1:1 aide for him because of safety issues. By requesting IEP, you are notifying school of his issues (and I would be very forthcoming about the SR). The school then bears liability for insuring safety of all the kids.</p><p> </p><p>I'm so glad you found us. I cannot imagine how difficult it is to have to face these issues in such young children.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="slsh, post: 163265, member: 8"] Night - thanks for the background info - it helps to put it in perspective. Kudos to you and husband for taking on the challenge of raising these boys, especially when you are raising an older child with special needs. I would run fast and furiously from any psychiatrist who suggests punishment for sexualized behavior. I'm just a mom but that is counterintuitive in my book. Ditto with emphasizing that it's wrong and illegal - it just isn't going to matter to a kid, but *especially* to a 7- and 4-year-old. My son has a history of sexualized behavior at a young age (starting about 7 or 8) but it was not predatory per se. More like open to any suggestions from peers, which was especially a problem when he was in RTCs. He did go to a therapist recommended by DCFS who specialized in this kind of stuff, in fact she did training for DCFS staff. There are folks who focus on this but it takes a bit of digging to find them. I don't mean to be alarmist but I really think you're dealing with a situation that has the potential to get more dangerous very quickly. DCFS may have closed the first case but heaven forbid if another child in daycare or school becomes involved. Resources - gosh, I think I'd start with a full evaluation at a Children's or university hospital with not only a neuropsychologist but also with a specialist in child abuse and/or sexualized behavoir as well as Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD). I honestly don't know a whole lot about Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) other than the kids can be very *very* resistant to treatment. And I don't mean to imply that 7-year-old was abused (though even 1 incident with an adult is abuse), but in my very limited experience, kids who are so young who are SR generally have extensive histories of abuse, so I would think a professional who works in that specialized field would be the person best qualified to start addressing these issues. I would very strongly recommend getting very assertive about getting them into the properly trained professionals *now*. Hysterical mom is a strategy that has worked for me and I think it's called for here - you have 2 extremely young children who are perpetrating against each other. I think the risk of it spreading to outside the family is huge. Does the 7-year-old have an IEP? If not, I would strongly recommend getting an evaluation started. The very first accommodation I would demand is a 1:1 aide for him because of safety issues. By requesting IEP, you are notifying school of his issues (and I would be very forthcoming about the SR). The school then bears liability for insuring safety of all the kids. I'm so glad you found us. I cannot imagine how difficult it is to have to face these issues in such young children. [/QUOTE]
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