My step son is 'sexually reactve' and is constantly toughing other kids or convncing them or tricking them into touching him. He is currently in therapy, and it seems to be doing absolutely not good!
The problem isnt jsut him. He is perping on his little brother and now his brother is dong it as well. We have punishments, becuase obviously this is not acceptable behavior and they are both aware of this. Nothing drastic, jsut a lot of time to think about how their behavior effects others. But this seems to be doing no good at all!!!!
Is there something we should be doing? Can anyone help?
Ok, lets get into more detail here.
My son is 13, and has aspergers. Lived half time at my house and half at his dad, not really in this portion of the story.
The older of my step kids, the 7 yo, purportedly was touched once by his uncle. I repeat, touched once. We went to the youth justice center, where the boy refused to implicate his uncle. Charges were dropped. This child is of no relation to either of us. My hub had a relationship with the mother from when the child was 4 months old. Bio father is gone, never in the picture. Mother dissapeared from all of our lives about 2 years ago. We have guardianship, been officially diagnosed as Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) and SR, unofficially as ODD. He is a master manipulator, and uses people at will. He is also a pathological liar.
The younger is 4 yo and is mostly effected by his brothers behavior, but is a chronic liar. He has been perped on and is perping back, so far only on his brother.
The 7 yo is in therapy, has been to half a dozen different doctors. We are trying to get him enrolled in ISAT. We are also trying to get him into an outpatient behavior modification program.
DCFS has been called on me already. After looking into the background, the mothers mental issues (she claims only bi polar, but there is more) her family and lifestyle, her absence, etc. dismissed all claims. In fact, she pretty much told us that kids with Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) do thing like lieto get their parents in trouble quite often.
We have one shrink that tells us to disipline for this behavior, and another says not to.
The boys know this behavior is wrong, and is illegal. They have been talked to by social workers, police, etc, and they continue to do it.