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<blockquote data-quote="timer lady" data-source="post: 163589" data-attributes="member: 393"><p><strong>Hi & welcome!</strong></p><p><strong></strong></p><p><strong>I'd really like to see you sit down & work this out by priorities. You have the diagnosis for your child & you feel it's a valid diagnosis. You know that your difficult child is a danger to your other children.</strong></p><p><strong></strong></p><p><strong>The problem is convincing the professionals that you need help for your difficult child.</strong></p><p><strong></strong></p><p><strong>As I see it (as I lived it with my tweedles), you must have one professional that will advocate for you & your family. You need to find one person who knows the situation & really feels this is a danger. I expect (as was the case with my wm) that your difficult children young age is playing against your case. Continue to push your case & search out that advocate.</strong></p><p><strong></strong></p><p><strong>Next would be the need for a one on one aide (a mature & understanding babysitter will do in a pinch) or a PCA (personal care attendant) to watch your difficult child & redirect negative behaviors. My husband & I were very close to hiring & paying for this ourselves; we still would if necessary but our CADI waiver of services came through. I digress; the PCA will be there strictly for your difficult child. You & the rest of the family can go about their business with or without difficult child while the PCA is there to constantly monitor & redirect.</strong></p><p><strong></strong></p><p><strong>While that is going on push for services from whatever entity you need to approach. The message each & every time you communicate with them is the safety of your family. You cannot keep your children safe 24/7 without some type of help or intervention. Push the safety message. We went through county mental health after a referral from CPS. County mental health fast tracked the waiver of services. </strong></p><p><strong></strong></p><p><strong>I really believe that your difficult children age is playing against your request for help & in patient intervention. We went through the same thing with wm when he was that age - no one wanted to believe this of a child of this age. Reality scares even the pros. </strong></p><p><strong></strong></p><p><strong>In the meantime, each & every time your difficult child chooses to act out sexually you need to step in, separate him from others & firmly redirect him. Whether to his room to play gameboy or watch television. I'm not sure how aware he is that this isn't the "norm". I'd let a professional work that out with him. However, he needs to be redirected & shown/modeled appropriate behaviors between siblings. </strong></p><p><strong></strong></p><p><strong>Your other children need to know how to speak up for themselves; what is good touch & what isn't. If your difficult child is being sexually aggressive they need to know it's okay to scream for help. Their body is their own private space & no one can enter that space with-o permission. The same goes for difficult child. </strong></p><p><strong></strong></p><p><strong>This is a great deal to digest - it's a hugely difficult problem & one that isn't going to go away tomorrow. </strong></p><p><strong></strong></p><p><strong>Take care & I will keep you & yours in my thoughts. </strong></p><p><strong></strong></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="timer lady, post: 163589, member: 393"] [B]Hi & welcome! I'd really like to see you sit down & work this out by priorities. You have the diagnosis for your child & you feel it's a valid diagnosis. You know that your difficult child is a danger to your other children. The problem is convincing the professionals that you need help for your difficult child. As I see it (as I lived it with my tweedles), you must have one professional that will advocate for you & your family. You need to find one person who knows the situation & really feels this is a danger. I expect (as was the case with my wm) that your difficult children young age is playing against your case. Continue to push your case & search out that advocate. Next would be the need for a one on one aide (a mature & understanding babysitter will do in a pinch) or a PCA (personal care attendant) to watch your difficult child & redirect negative behaviors. My husband & I were very close to hiring & paying for this ourselves; we still would if necessary but our CADI waiver of services came through. I digress; the PCA will be there strictly for your difficult child. You & the rest of the family can go about their business with or without difficult child while the PCA is there to constantly monitor & redirect. While that is going on push for services from whatever entity you need to approach. The message each & every time you communicate with them is the safety of your family. You cannot keep your children safe 24/7 without some type of help or intervention. Push the safety message. We went through county mental health after a referral from CPS. County mental health fast tracked the waiver of services. I really believe that your difficult children age is playing against your request for help & in patient intervention. We went through the same thing with wm when he was that age - no one wanted to believe this of a child of this age. Reality scares even the pros. In the meantime, each & every time your difficult child chooses to act out sexually you need to step in, separate him from others & firmly redirect him. Whether to his room to play gameboy or watch television. I'm not sure how aware he is that this isn't the "norm". I'd let a professional work that out with him. However, he needs to be redirected & shown/modeled appropriate behaviors between siblings. Your other children need to know how to speak up for themselves; what is good touch & what isn't. If your difficult child is being sexually aggressive they need to know it's okay to scream for help. Their body is their own private space & no one can enter that space with-o permission. The same goes for difficult child. This is a great deal to digest - it's a hugely difficult problem & one that isn't going to go away tomorrow. Take care & I will keep you & yours in my thoughts. [/B] [/QUOTE]
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