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Help-Im waivering w no support from husband and a crying gtg on the streets
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<blockquote data-quote="rejectedmom" data-source="post: 526942" data-attributes="member: 2315"><p>Star it is the 18 year old she has put out not the 15 or the 23 year old.</p><p></p><p>You are doing the right thing. You and husband and your 15 year old deserve to be safe in your own home. I do not think settting him up in an apt is a good idea it just rewards him for very bad behavior (gives him a place to party for free) Same with sending him off to college. It is hard to think of our own kids as criminals but the fact is when they steal, that is what they are. Would you concider giving an apartment or an education to any other criminal that stole from you repeatedly? I doubt it, but when the criminal is own our child we get so confused.. That is why we have to step back and look at the situation from a more detached perspective. So many times parents think that they can pay restitution (or in the case of them stealing from the parent letting it go) and send the kid off to school and everything will be fine. Unfortunatley that usually does not work. When we do that, we just reinforce terrible behavior. Even when that behavior is driven by drug use they need to reap the natural concequences. Because the consequences are what will make them realize that they need to clean up their act. I am sorry youare going thorugh the pain of an out of control teenage child. You have found a good place where you will not be alone in your struggles. -RM</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="rejectedmom, post: 526942, member: 2315"] Star it is the 18 year old she has put out not the 15 or the 23 year old. You are doing the right thing. You and husband and your 15 year old deserve to be safe in your own home. I do not think settting him up in an apt is a good idea it just rewards him for very bad behavior (gives him a place to party for free) Same with sending him off to college. It is hard to think of our own kids as criminals but the fact is when they steal, that is what they are. Would you concider giving an apartment or an education to any other criminal that stole from you repeatedly? I doubt it, but when the criminal is own our child we get so confused.. That is why we have to step back and look at the situation from a more detached perspective. So many times parents think that they can pay restitution (or in the case of them stealing from the parent letting it go) and send the kid off to school and everything will be fine. Unfortunatley that usually does not work. When we do that, we just reinforce terrible behavior. Even when that behavior is driven by drug use they need to reap the natural concequences. Because the consequences are what will make them realize that they need to clean up their act. I am sorry youare going thorugh the pain of an out of control teenage child. You have found a good place where you will not be alone in your struggles. -RM [/QUOTE]
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