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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 182734" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>Sara, In most situations (typical families) I would agree. But in this situation- well, if you had a 12yo kid in major legal trouble who was put on house arrest with a sentencing coming up and ordered to stay away from all friends, but a 10 yo girl was coming on to your kid big time and talking sex with him (and he's a virgin), and another kid was acting all buddy-buddy with your kid and told him to ignore what his mom said, that he'd get him some condomns and that the rules were stupid, would you stop your kid from having contact with that other kid who was saying and doing those things? Keep in mind- on top of the situation he was already in, the legal age of consent here is 13 yo.</p><p></p><p>My answer was "yes" I would stop it. Not only for my son's sake but for my sake- I'm legally and financially responsible for his actions, debts, and mental health (they made that clear) and if I couldn't keep him in a normal realm of things, they would place him to live somewhere else. Well, just because it was my bro instead of another kid, I felt like (and still feel like) he is not in my son's best interest. I don't encourage this communication any more than I would encourage my son to communicate with another kid who told him these things. Ultimately, difficult child has to gain the maturity to make wise decisions about his friends and who he associates with himself, but a kid who just had a diagnosis change to bipolar because he went manic is not a kid I would feel comfortable with making those decisions for himself.</p><p></p><p>My son needs to be worried about his issues- not my bro's- and lord knows, my bro has a handful of his own. He just won't deal with them.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 182734, member: 3699"] Sara, In most situations (typical families) I would agree. But in this situation- well, if you had a 12yo kid in major legal trouble who was put on house arrest with a sentencing coming up and ordered to stay away from all friends, but a 10 yo girl was coming on to your kid big time and talking sex with him (and he's a virgin), and another kid was acting all buddy-buddy with your kid and told him to ignore what his mom said, that he'd get him some condomns and that the rules were stupid, would you stop your kid from having contact with that other kid who was saying and doing those things? Keep in mind- on top of the situation he was already in, the legal age of consent here is 13 yo. My answer was "yes" I would stop it. Not only for my son's sake but for my sake- I'm legally and financially responsible for his actions, debts, and mental health (they made that clear) and if I couldn't keep him in a normal realm of things, they would place him to live somewhere else. Well, just because it was my bro instead of another kid, I felt like (and still feel like) he is not in my son's best interest. I don't encourage this communication any more than I would encourage my son to communicate with another kid who told him these things. Ultimately, difficult child has to gain the maturity to make wise decisions about his friends and who he associates with himself, but a kid who just had a diagnosis change to bipolar because he went manic is not a kid I would feel comfortable with making those decisions for himself. My son needs to be worried about his issues- not my bro's- and lord knows, my bro has a handful of his own. He just won't deal with them. [/QUOTE]
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