There's more legal stuff this week- it seems absurd to me.... 1) I called the attny I used for the custody case my bro instigated. he said that he didn;t see any big deal if bro wanted to write difficult child but if difficult child didn't want to get the cards/letters, then difficult child should write bro that. Well, I'm looking at it like this- if there is an agreement that party A will call if party A wants to, but party B will stay away otherwise, then party B sends several cards trying to get party A to call, when party A doesn't want to and has told everyone (including party B) that, if party A writes to say that they don't want to communicate, hasn't that just given in to party B's manipulation? I checked on line (i'm not having a lot of luck lately looking up laws). But, I found something about having a right to stop unwanted mail, I'm just not sure if it only pertains to junk mail. Anyway, then there is the law I found about it being illegal to open someone else's mail. What if it is your minor child's mail? Really, if it were a kid from school or some other adult trying to mislead or be a bad influence on my son, I would be charged right now for not looking out for him- they have made it clear to me that I am responsible legally, for his actions, any debts he incurrs, and his mental health treatment. So, just because it is a family member, don't I have the same right and obligation to say it has to stop- I don't care if difficult child wanted it or not? If I have a right to block a phone number from calling, don't I have a right to stop mail from a particular person? Even the attny said this has probably crossed the line of harassment -but he couldn't do anything yet. HUM. 2) difficult child went in to someone's house last year- at age 12. He ended up with a felony. Given all the circumstances, I didn't put up too much fight over that. Then I find out that in this state, there is a new law that felonies don't get dropped from juvenile's records- ever. Then, I get a letter in the mail saying difficult child has to get fingerprinted and his info will be sent to a central data base. He was 12 yo- are they telling me that his info is going to be available to everyone (like we can look up sexual offender's data online)? This was a non-violent crime, in juvenile court- and it is legally documented as such. Does this mean when he's 40 that he can't get cleared to work in certain buildings? This seems absurd to me. And, I can't even find the actual juvenile law online. No attny seems to know that much about it- shoot, apparently the judge doesn't know or manipulates it- given that the judge called us in about 3 times re-doing her sentence for difficult child staing how "oh, I ordered this but now I find that I can't do it". How do you find the actual wwritten law for a juvenile in a given jurisdiction? 3) Then, I read that a kid who was in juvy with difficult child for a violent crime had planned an escape and was charged. difficult child didn't associate with this boy- there was an age difference- but difficult child had met him and knew of him. The kid had just been released, then committed a violent crime, ran, but got caught and was put back in. Well, there were 2 nurses there- difficult child and I knew both of them. One of them was charged this week because she apparently gave this kid a handcuff key. I don't know how either got caught- but the kid is charged extra for planning an escape. the nurse claims the kid threatened a gang attack on her or her family (from the outside). But, she gave him a handcuff key. She is fired and arrested- for a misdemeanor. These 2 nurses managed difficult child's medications. difficult child had said there was a kid about his age who went to the nurse a lot to talk. I found that odd, given that there is a counselor on staff. But, I figured maybe she is acting like a counselor and that kid is just more comfortable with her. Now, I'm not so sure. At least difficult child didn't get caught up in that. But how much do you think I'd trust these people if difficult child ends up in there again? Especially after last year when he was threatened and attacked sexually in juvy (no act was accomplished) and the cops I reported it to just said "well, these aren't good kids, you can't expect much". I swear, I think this whole jurisdiction is crooked. Really- call me paranoid, but I have no faith left in it.