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<blockquote data-quote="Sara PA" data-source="post: 182740" data-attributes="member: 1498"><p>It is exactly because of the legal situation that I would be sure that this was my son's decision. If your son doesn't want contact, then guide him on how to make the contact stop. Or how to ignore the attempts. Like it or not, the courts have put your son, not you, in control of his communication with his uncle. That makes it your job to teach him how to take that control and acheive the outcome he wants. The easiest way for him to do that is to write 'Refused" and send the mail back. But it has to be his handwriting, not yours. And, according to the court, his decision but it sounds like he's made that.</p><p></p><p>In your situation, you got to cover your own behind and you have to make sure the i's are dotted and the t's are crossed. You're dealing with court decisions now, the system is in your house. Logic no longer applies, just the courts.</p><p></p><p>Edited to add....</p><p>by the way, your son doesn't have to deal with your brother's issues. He has the choice to stop contact if he wishes and, you've said he wishes to. Teach him to detach from your brother. That means he doesn't accept the mail or he throws it away unopened. It's that simple. Opening the mail and reading it is inviting your brother into your home. Don't.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Sara PA, post: 182740, member: 1498"] It is exactly because of the legal situation that I would be sure that this was my son's decision. If your son doesn't want contact, then guide him on how to make the contact stop. Or how to ignore the attempts. Like it or not, the courts have put your son, not you, in control of his communication with his uncle. That makes it your job to teach him how to take that control and acheive the outcome he wants. The easiest way for him to do that is to write 'Refused" and send the mail back. But it has to be his handwriting, not yours. And, according to the court, his decision but it sounds like he's made that. In your situation, you got to cover your own behind and you have to make sure the i's are dotted and the t's are crossed. You're dealing with court decisions now, the system is in your house. Logic no longer applies, just the courts. Edited to add.... by the way, your son doesn't have to deal with your brother's issues. He has the choice to stop contact if he wishes and, you've said he wishes to. Teach him to detach from your brother. That means he doesn't accept the mail or he throws it away unopened. It's that simple. Opening the mail and reading it is inviting your brother into your home. Don't. [/QUOTE]
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