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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 311566"><p>Hi Christy...my heart aches for you. This is double trouble...and my guess is, they know it. Strength comes in numbers and it is two against one with these "ladies." Hmmmm</p><p></p><p>ODD...well, there are some who think much (not all) of that is a result of kids/teens getting really use to getting their own way. I apologize being so blunt, 'cause I know you are hurting badly...but I am hoping that it might help you get out of the hurt and get out of it fast.</p><p></p><p>On this board (or check at amazon) there is some book called something like, Yes, your teen is crazy. I would suggest you take a look at that one, as well as the other one mentioned. They often think they own the world, and ODD is a little extra "kick."</p><p></p><p>Do you have any good friends or relatives who can help you? The reason I ask, is 'cause a united front will help give you strength to stand up to this oppositional duo. And by the way, this business where they don't like your friends...well that needs to END. Have you brought it up in family therapy?</p><p></p><p>My thought....somehow let them know that mom loves them BUT, mom just isn't going to have two young ladies bossing her around.</p><p></p><p>And guess what? Mom has a life! Mom enjoys life! Mom does fun things. And those fun things, do not include them. Why would they???They (the twins) are a drag. They are rude, nasty, put mom down, are sarcastic...a real downer. Besides, they are 14 years old. You can not be bothered with their pettiness. And don't be. STOP trying so hard. Just stop.</p><p></p><p>In fact, if they are rude to you...start taking "things" away. Like the cell phone or computer for a day or two.</p><p></p><p>Sure, they'll say "we don't care." Or we'll do something terrible. Okay, fine. It's your neck sisters.</p><p></p><p>What do you like to do for fun? Are you 80 years old and in a wheelchair? If not, what about exercise? Dancing? </p><p></p><p>The silly sisters are going to start looking like twits when mom is out dancing, losing weight and getting her hair and nails done and they are with-o a cell phone and in detention in school, running the risk of going to juvenile hall, etc.</p><p></p><p>You can always say..hey I love you...do not wish for you to get into trouble....this stuff 'bugs' me and I wish it were different. It's great we are going to family therapy. But, I personally have a life. I plan on enjoying it and life moves on for me. Too bad, so sad, that you guys are stuck in the mud.</p><p></p><p>Tell these girls: "You two are not the center of my universe. I've got fun places to go to, things to do, and people to see. "</p><p></p><p> Tell them to get over themselves...</p><p></p><p>Christy,</p><p>Keep yourself too busy with- fun things and around fun people to let this "bother" you anymore. You, in the end, will be role model to the girls on how to live life in a healthy manner. Additionally, its hard to 'push around' a woman who is having fun. Besides, you'll be too busy to let this stuff really 'get' to you. So, figure out what you like to do, who you like to hang around with...and get moving. If the girls complain, let it go in one ear and quickly out the other. Tell them...'get over it.'</p><p></p><p>If this continues to cause a lot of stress for you, please seriously consider getting a therapist for yourself. Like CM said...they are "invaluable." (Hugs)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 311566"] Hi Christy...my heart aches for you. This is double trouble...and my guess is, they know it. Strength comes in numbers and it is two against one with these "ladies." Hmmmm ODD...well, there are some who think much (not all) of that is a result of kids/teens getting really use to getting their own way. I apologize being so blunt, 'cause I know you are hurting badly...but I am hoping that it might help you get out of the hurt and get out of it fast. On this board (or check at amazon) there is some book called something like, Yes, your teen is crazy. I would suggest you take a look at that one, as well as the other one mentioned. They often think they own the world, and ODD is a little extra "kick." Do you have any good friends or relatives who can help you? The reason I ask, is 'cause a united front will help give you strength to stand up to this oppositional duo. And by the way, this business where they don't like your friends...well that needs to END. Have you brought it up in family therapy? My thought....somehow let them know that mom loves them BUT, mom just isn't going to have two young ladies bossing her around. And guess what? Mom has a life! Mom enjoys life! Mom does fun things. And those fun things, do not include them. Why would they???They (the twins) are a drag. They are rude, nasty, put mom down, are sarcastic...a real downer. Besides, they are 14 years old. You can not be bothered with their pettiness. And don't be. STOP trying so hard. Just stop. In fact, if they are rude to you...start taking "things" away. Like the cell phone or computer for a day or two. Sure, they'll say "we don't care." Or we'll do something terrible. Okay, fine. It's your neck sisters. What do you like to do for fun? Are you 80 years old and in a wheelchair? If not, what about exercise? Dancing? The silly sisters are going to start looking like twits when mom is out dancing, losing weight and getting her hair and nails done and they are with-o a cell phone and in detention in school, running the risk of going to juvenile hall, etc. You can always say..hey I love you...do not wish for you to get into trouble....this stuff 'bugs' me and I wish it were different. It's great we are going to family therapy. But, I personally have a life. I plan on enjoying it and life moves on for me. Too bad, so sad, that you guys are stuck in the mud. Tell these girls: "You two are not the center of my universe. I've got fun places to go to, things to do, and people to see. " Tell them to get over themselves... Christy, Keep yourself too busy with- fun things and around fun people to let this "bother" you anymore. You, in the end, will be role model to the girls on how to live life in a healthy manner. Additionally, its hard to 'push around' a woman who is having fun. Besides, you'll be too busy to let this stuff really 'get' to you. So, figure out what you like to do, who you like to hang around with...and get moving. If the girls complain, let it go in one ear and quickly out the other. Tell them...'get over it.' If this continues to cause a lot of stress for you, please seriously consider getting a therapist for yourself. Like CM said...they are "invaluable." (Hugs) [/QUOTE]
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