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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 444376" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I would tell him that moving home is not on the canvass until he is respectful, period. Also, it is YOUR choice to talk to whomever you like (to get advice and help) and he is not allowed to get abusive toward you about it. It's YOUR house, it's YOUR call. Doesn't sound like it would be too successful if he moved back with his attitude. He could have told you in a nice way that it hurt him for you to share with his grandparents. Is this a child who uses drugs? If so, do you feel he stopped?</p><p>I would have deep reservations about letting him come home so fast. Obviously, he is tiring of his fourteen year old girlfriend, but it was his choice to move, against your advice, and I woudn't be so fast to let him come home. Have him go to counseling with you a few times BEFORE he comes home...make him prove he is willing to take counseling and family rules seriously.</p><p>Unfortunately, I had one who was like this at one time and I know about all the broken promises that can happen and don't want your heart broken any more than it already is.</p><p>As for do they hate us...I think they do at the time. But that changes as they change. My daughter hated me after we made her leave. She wouldn't even talk to us. That was at age eighteen. Last week she turned twenty-seven. WE are very close and I love her with all my heart and she feels the same. Many difficult children DO grow up. The way to make it end is to just put your foot down as you are doing. In the end, my daughter, at least, appreciated our "tough love" although she didn't at the time.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 444376, member: 1550"] I would tell him that moving home is not on the canvass until he is respectful, period. Also, it is YOUR choice to talk to whomever you like (to get advice and help) and he is not allowed to get abusive toward you about it. It's YOUR house, it's YOUR call. Doesn't sound like it would be too successful if he moved back with his attitude. He could have told you in a nice way that it hurt him for you to share with his grandparents. Is this a child who uses drugs? If so, do you feel he stopped? I would have deep reservations about letting him come home so fast. Obviously, he is tiring of his fourteen year old girlfriend, but it was his choice to move, against your advice, and I woudn't be so fast to let him come home. Have him go to counseling with you a few times BEFORE he comes home...make him prove he is willing to take counseling and family rules seriously. Unfortunately, I had one who was like this at one time and I know about all the broken promises that can happen and don't want your heart broken any more than it already is. As for do they hate us...I think they do at the time. But that changes as they change. My daughter hated me after we made her leave. She wouldn't even talk to us. That was at age eighteen. Last week she turned twenty-seven. WE are very close and I love her with all my heart and she feels the same. Many difficult children DO grow up. The way to make it end is to just put your foot down as you are doing. In the end, my daughter, at least, appreciated our "tough love" although she didn't at the time. [/QUOTE]
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