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<blockquote data-quote="Zardo" data-source="post: 470786" data-attributes="member: 12490"><p>I have been there and know the panic and frustration of this situation. The hard-to-live-with reality is - you cannot stop him from using if he is this motivated to use. I traied and failed. We also ended up sending ours away to Wilderness for 90 days. Things are much better now, but I sitll worry about him slipping back. I will tell you that we were very aggressive in confronting the use and contesting it. I went through his phone to find out the REAL facts. When he would freak about something like that and try to run, I would call the police to stop him. Whatever "card" he pulled, we pulled a card with an appropriate response. It didn't stop him, but showed him we were serious and eventually brought things to a head. I do remember helpful suggestions from a book called "Parenting Your Out of control Teenager". It talks about the seven aces teens use and how to respond in kind. I did use some strategies from that book like providing our own "24 hours survelience" by staying with him and sleeping outside his room because we did not feel we could trust him. I know it's a very hard time. I pray for you that he gets into his program and begins to see a light at the end of his dark tunnel.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Zardo, post: 470786, member: 12490"] I have been there and know the panic and frustration of this situation. The hard-to-live-with reality is - you cannot stop him from using if he is this motivated to use. I traied and failed. We also ended up sending ours away to Wilderness for 90 days. Things are much better now, but I sitll worry about him slipping back. I will tell you that we were very aggressive in confronting the use and contesting it. I went through his phone to find out the REAL facts. When he would freak about something like that and try to run, I would call the police to stop him. Whatever "card" he pulled, we pulled a card with an appropriate response. It didn't stop him, but showed him we were serious and eventually brought things to a head. I do remember helpful suggestions from a book called "Parenting Your Out of control Teenager". It talks about the seven aces teens use and how to respond in kind. I did use some strategies from that book like providing our own "24 hours survelience" by staying with him and sleeping outside his room because we did not feel we could trust him. I know it's a very hard time. I pray for you that he gets into his program and begins to see a light at the end of his dark tunnel. [/QUOTE]
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