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<blockquote data-quote="Zardo" data-source="post: 470907" data-attributes="member: 12490"><p>One other thought for you - one of the turning points for us was when our son got caught with pot at school, arrested and expelled. I was suddenly no longer the enemy. He was saying things to me like "why didn't I listen to you". It still took a long time after that to make a lasting change (for now), but it was that one event that gave us as parents power and credibility in his eyes. We now could confront the issue as a problem whereas before is was just war - us versus his desire to use. So - with this in mind - telling the school officials may be a good idea. If he is using at school and you have the strength to hope he gets caught so that you are no longer the bad guy - it may not work out as horrible as you think. And above - when I mention 24 hour surveillance - I mean even sleeping in his room - got that I dea from a counselor and the book. Man did my son HATE the 24 hours surveillence thing, but at least I knew he was safe for the night and it sent a strong message - "we love you too much to take any chances - until I can trust you - here I am". I only did it for 2 nights - but again - I thought it had a big impact. Good luck.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Zardo, post: 470907, member: 12490"] One other thought for you - one of the turning points for us was when our son got caught with pot at school, arrested and expelled. I was suddenly no longer the enemy. He was saying things to me like "why didn't I listen to you". It still took a long time after that to make a lasting change (for now), but it was that one event that gave us as parents power and credibility in his eyes. We now could confront the issue as a problem whereas before is was just war - us versus his desire to use. So - with this in mind - telling the school officials may be a good idea. If he is using at school and you have the strength to hope he gets caught so that you are no longer the bad guy - it may not work out as horrible as you think. And above - when I mention 24 hour surveillance - I mean even sleeping in his room - got that I dea from a counselor and the book. Man did my son HATE the 24 hours surveillence thing, but at least I knew he was safe for the night and it sent a strong message - "we love you too much to take any chances - until I can trust you - here I am". I only did it for 2 nights - but again - I thought it had a big impact. Good luck. [/QUOTE]
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