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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 245981" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Just popped in wondering how you are all doing? I hope you and your husband have been able to really talk about the difficult child. </p><p></p><p>I didn't address the not crying issue. Or, really, the no tears issue. If there is no problem with the tear ducts then he is simply not really crying. Or so I have been told. It is a ploy for attention or to get out of trouble. My difficult child did this for a number of years. It was really hard because the ONLY time we saw tears was when he was upset because we were being "unfair" to him by not letting him do things that hurt other people but that he though were fun. </p><p></p><p>I really hope and pray you can get him into a psychiatric hospital and also a doctor who specialized in gender identity issues. I agree that might be a big part of the puzzle. </p><p></p><p>I do have to say that you either need to take strong measures to ensure YOUR child's safety or get out of the situation until the stepgfg is stable. It is dangerous to your son physically to be near this boy AND it is dangerous to his psyche in many ways. He will act out because he is hurt and because he thinks you are doing nothing to stop the other boy so why should he behave. That could endanger his future by getting him in trouble with the law.</p><p></p><p>It also hurts his psyche because he thinks you have chosen the new husband and stepchild over him because you are not keeping him safe. I am NOT saying you are choosing the new hubby and stepgfg, but that you son perceives that you are doing that. Your son also perceived you as not being worth valuing because your husband is letting his child abuse you, and because you are not forcing the husband and his child to take appropriate care of you, esp with your disability and weakened state because it. It just seems like a really physically and emotionally risky situation for you and your child to be in.</p><p></p><p>I am sorry.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 245981, member: 1233"] Just popped in wondering how you are all doing? I hope you and your husband have been able to really talk about the difficult child. I didn't address the not crying issue. Or, really, the no tears issue. If there is no problem with the tear ducts then he is simply not really crying. Or so I have been told. It is a ploy for attention or to get out of trouble. My difficult child did this for a number of years. It was really hard because the ONLY time we saw tears was when he was upset because we were being "unfair" to him by not letting him do things that hurt other people but that he though were fun. I really hope and pray you can get him into a psychiatric hospital and also a doctor who specialized in gender identity issues. I agree that might be a big part of the puzzle. I do have to say that you either need to take strong measures to ensure YOUR child's safety or get out of the situation until the stepgfg is stable. It is dangerous to your son physically to be near this boy AND it is dangerous to his psyche in many ways. He will act out because he is hurt and because he thinks you are doing nothing to stop the other boy so why should he behave. That could endanger his future by getting him in trouble with the law. It also hurts his psyche because he thinks you have chosen the new husband and stepchild over him because you are not keeping him safe. I am NOT saying you are choosing the new hubby and stepgfg, but that you son perceives that you are doing that. Your son also perceived you as not being worth valuing because your husband is letting his child abuse you, and because you are not forcing the husband and his child to take appropriate care of you, esp with your disability and weakened state because it. It just seems like a really physically and emotionally risky situation for you and your child to be in. I am sorry. [/QUOTE]
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