Wow, PsychMom. This is a whale of a issue.
First question, did you find the dog another home or is he still living with you? That's some pretty icky stuff and I'm thinking it's better that the dog be removed.
I also think you need to listen to your gut. Never leave the baby alone with Sal. Ever. I seriously do not like that Sal was trying to enter the bathroom where your young nephew was bathing. That isn't typical 13 year old behavior.
Are you and your husband seeing a counselor for yourselves to see how best to proceed with Sal? Not Sal's therapist, a different one for YOU. This is some heavy stuff. Do you think Sal has been sexually abused?
