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Help please! I need to ask if I was a bad mother. Feel like one.
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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 609701" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I am so glad that what I said about the volunteer place made sense to you and has given you a tool to use to help you choose social groups. Some days I cannot express what I think for all the salt in McDonald's, but others the words seem to flow the way they should. It is great that you recognize that the social miscues would normally be brushed off and that when they are not, often it is not the miscue but rather the other person that is the problem. You are a sweetie, but many people just cannot cope with people being nice. Then they try to tear YOU down rather than to do anything to truly solve their problems.</p><p></p><p>It is a big relief that you see that daughter in law is the best choice for custody. I know it is late in the game, but could you send a letter or email to her telling her that you hope she gets custody and that you think she is the best choice of parent for grandson to spend most of his time with? That you have serious concerns about 35's choices and behaviors and it may not be safe for grandson to spend large amts of time with him? It WILL get back to your son, and will make him very angry and hurt. I don't think that would be worse than the trauma of finding that your son has done something stupid, but I totally understnad if you need or want to stay far from the topic. The entire situation of a custody fight is exhausting. I just wonder if years from now, if 35 did something drastic, that you might feel bad because you daughter NOT tell the court about it. I fully understand if you cannot do this. I spent decades being verbally and otherwise abused with-o standing up when I should have. I cast no stones to you regardless of your choices. This is just something to think about.</p><p></p><p>I am glad that something I have said is helpful to you. You are one of the most loving people that I have ever been given as a friend. Even if we NEVER meet in real life, you will still be a good friend that I care deeply about.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 609701, member: 1233"] I am so glad that what I said about the volunteer place made sense to you and has given you a tool to use to help you choose social groups. Some days I cannot express what I think for all the salt in McDonald's, but others the words seem to flow the way they should. It is great that you recognize that the social miscues would normally be brushed off and that when they are not, often it is not the miscue but rather the other person that is the problem. You are a sweetie, but many people just cannot cope with people being nice. Then they try to tear YOU down rather than to do anything to truly solve their problems. It is a big relief that you see that daughter in law is the best choice for custody. I know it is late in the game, but could you send a letter or email to her telling her that you hope she gets custody and that you think she is the best choice of parent for grandson to spend most of his time with? That you have serious concerns about 35's choices and behaviors and it may not be safe for grandson to spend large amts of time with him? It WILL get back to your son, and will make him very angry and hurt. I don't think that would be worse than the trauma of finding that your son has done something stupid, but I totally understnad if you need or want to stay far from the topic. The entire situation of a custody fight is exhausting. I just wonder if years from now, if 35 did something drastic, that you might feel bad because you daughter NOT tell the court about it. I fully understand if you cannot do this. I spent decades being verbally and otherwise abused with-o standing up when I should have. I cast no stones to you regardless of your choices. This is just something to think about. I am glad that something I have said is helpful to you. You are one of the most loving people that I have ever been given as a friend. Even if we NEVER meet in real life, you will still be a good friend that I care deeply about. [/QUOTE]
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