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<blockquote data-quote="Dollhouse" data-source="post: 256315"><p><span style="font-family: 'Century Gothic'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: navy">Hi Cakewalk! Welcome; I'm a newbie myself <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Century Gothic'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: navy">I can totally empathize with a lot of the things you have experienced. I too, married only 4.5 years ago, with the previous years of being a single parent. I've experienced the name calling, the hatred towards my husband and the 'punch the wall' behavior. </span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Century Gothic'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: navy">My son and I were close; probably too close. I am guilty of not setting boundaries, etc and I'm am paying for that now. He is 18 and is just getting worse. I tried counseling with him many times, many therapists, but didn't stick through it long enough to reap the results. I was too 'scared' to really stick to my guns with him.</span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Century Gothic'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: navy">In any case, I too would be hesitant to just sign your son over to your family; although I understand what it feels like for him to be gone and enjoying that peace without the constant chaos his abscence has provided.</span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Century Gothic'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: navy">Since he is NOT 18yet, I would agree with what Daisylover stated; if he becomes violent, have him sent to a psychiatric facility to be evaluated and/or possibly to a Residential Treatment Center (Residential Treatment Center (RTC)). You <u>DO </u>have control over that right now, because he is still a minor. You can send him there kicking and screaming and he won't be able to do anything about it. (and neither would your family -- you are your son's legal guardian and they wouldn't have a say in his mental health care). Perhaps he can get the help he needs if that is done.</span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Century Gothic'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: navy">I should have done that with my son and didn't and I'm paying the price for my fear. I didn't want to 'send him away' when I had the chance. Once he is 18 (like my son), you can't do anything. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/felttip/sad-very.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":sad-very:" title="sad-very :sad-very:" data-shortname=":sad-very:" /></span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Century Gothic'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: navy">I will be praying for you...please try to hang in there.</span></span></span> </p><p> </p><p>~Doll</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Dollhouse, post: 256315"] [FONT=Century Gothic][SIZE=3][COLOR=navy]Hi Cakewalk! Welcome; I'm a newbie myself :)[/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Century Gothic][SIZE=3][COLOR=navy]I can totally empathize with a lot of the things you have experienced. I too, married only 4.5 years ago, with the previous years of being a single parent. I've experienced the name calling, the hatred towards my husband and the 'punch the wall' behavior. [/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Century Gothic][SIZE=3][COLOR=navy]My son and I were close; probably too close. I am guilty of not setting boundaries, etc and I'm am paying for that now. He is 18 and is just getting worse. I tried counseling with him many times, many therapists, but didn't stick through it long enough to reap the results. I was too 'scared' to really stick to my guns with him.[/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Century Gothic][SIZE=3][COLOR=navy]In any case, I too would be hesitant to just sign your son over to your family; although I understand what it feels like for him to be gone and enjoying that peace without the constant chaos his abscence has provided.[/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Century Gothic][SIZE=3][COLOR=navy]Since he is NOT 18yet, I would agree with what Daisylover stated; if he becomes violent, have him sent to a psychiatric facility to be evaluated and/or possibly to a Residential Treatment Center (Residential Treatment Center (RTC)). You [U]DO [/U]have control over that right now, because he is still a minor. You can send him there kicking and screaming and he won't be able to do anything about it. (and neither would your family -- you are your son's legal guardian and they wouldn't have a say in his mental health care). Perhaps he can get the help he needs if that is done.[/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Century Gothic][SIZE=3][COLOR=navy]I should have done that with my son and didn't and I'm paying the price for my fear. I didn't want to 'send him away' when I had the chance. Once he is 18 (like my son), you can't do anything. :sad-very:[/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Century Gothic][SIZE=3][COLOR=navy]I will be praying for you...please try to hang in there.[/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] ~Doll [/QUOTE]
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