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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 377945" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Oh, and I forgot to mention - my 'fiance' the nice churchgoing boy who was pressuring me for sex, was to-timing me and was an utter cad who broke up with me eventually and in doing so, did me a huge favour. He was a creep, a coward and a moral vacuum. I would have realised this eventually. I would have realised it sooner if I had been able to talk to someone more about the problems.</p><p></p><p>In easy child 2/difficult child 2's case, she bounced back when boyfriend broke up with her (he was drunk and egged on by his mates) then next day wanted to get back with her; she had been able to talk to me about the problems and so was ready for his change of heart and stood firm. "No, you made a wise decision." She listened to me and took my advice when I told her to insist on a month's "no contact" between them as a cooling off period, then they could together discuss where their relationship was going. With that little time apart (her choice, despite my advice) she got enough distance to see his bad behaviour and feel more comfortable with the decision to move on. Her choice, but in good communication with us. Mind you, we had had to really grit our teeth when she started sleeping with this guy. But we knew we couldn't prevent it, if we tried we would just drive the whole problem underground and that would remove the last few controls we had.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 377945, member: 1991"] Oh, and I forgot to mention - my 'fiance' the nice churchgoing boy who was pressuring me for sex, was to-timing me and was an utter cad who broke up with me eventually and in doing so, did me a huge favour. He was a creep, a coward and a moral vacuum. I would have realised this eventually. I would have realised it sooner if I had been able to talk to someone more about the problems. In easy child 2/difficult child 2's case, she bounced back when boyfriend broke up with her (he was drunk and egged on by his mates) then next day wanted to get back with her; she had been able to talk to me about the problems and so was ready for his change of heart and stood firm. "No, you made a wise decision." She listened to me and took my advice when I told her to insist on a month's "no contact" between them as a cooling off period, then they could together discuss where their relationship was going. With that little time apart (her choice, despite my advice) she got enough distance to see his bad behaviour and feel more comfortable with the decision to move on. Her choice, but in good communication with us. Mind you, we had had to really grit our teeth when she started sleeping with this guy. But we knew we couldn't prevent it, if we tried we would just drive the whole problem underground and that would remove the last few controls we had. Marg [/QUOTE]
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