Hello everyone, I'm new here and glad I found you all! I am a mom of a 14 year old highly functioning autistic boy. husband and I are at our wits end with him. I feel my patience is all but gone. 1. Destructive - He is quite destructive to our home. Most of it is unintentional (running in the house when he's not supposed to), and some of it is. He is reckless and doesn't think about what he's doing. If the back door is locked, he'll stand there yanking on it trying to get it to open and end up busting the storm door hydraulic. Essentially, since September, he has broken a toilet lid, toilet seat, knocked my laundry door off the tracks more than once, same for the pantry doors, and pushed one end of a towel rack through the wall, broke the hydraulic on the back door, screwed up the handle on the back door, and the list goes on. I want to strangle him! Also, his father and I have to deal with disrespect and defiance from him. He'll call us names, insist that we WILL NOT do something he doesn't want us to do (as if he is in control), was caught several times trying to sneak his games, ipod, etc out of the house, argues over everything, doesn't do what he's told (i.e. will not bring his laundry down, go to bed without a fight, take care of his dogs, etc etc etc). husband takes a lot more from him than I will until he finally blows up (which is usually about once a day). difficult child and I argue all the time and it's driving husband nuts (me too for that matter). I've had it with working all day and coming home to a child that thinks he can tell me what I will and will not do. To make things worse, a couple weeks ago when difficult child and I were arguing about my right to curse in my own home, he punched me in the mouth. He never did that before and I didn't handle it well. If he ever does it again, I've told him I will call the police and send him to juv. Don't get me wrong, difficult child can also be very loving and gives me hugs and kisses and tells me how much he loves me. I just need some help in how I can '"deal" with him being a teen.