So yes you heard it right I am an enabler to my daughter and finally I get it, what took so long - I don't know denial I guess. So long story short for the past 8-10 years we (husband and myself) have been dealing with her drug addiction, which she has been in and out of rehab just as late as last year. I don't notice she is doing drugs again but the constant lying that goes on and being disrespectful is gotten out of control. For instance just yesterday (we have to lock our bedroom door when were not home because we don't trust her) she broke into the room and took some cash and then lied and then confessed because it was only $22.00 it was okay in her eyes. I am livid about that again she has been stealing, lieing you name it for years. She works 30 hours at 9.00/hr and when she gets paid within 3 days the money is gone and then expects us to pay her bills and give her a ride to and from work because she has fines she can't pay and doesn't own a vehicle. Really? but the enabler in me did it because for some stupid reason I felt guilty and other people were like she is your daughter help her do whatever you can. NO we have had enough, me and my husband fight all the time and now its to the point of him moving out; I will not have that because of her and she won't leave because she has no place to go but I can't deal with it no longer. She has put us in so much debt because of the court cases and the lieing that I don't know if we can ever retire but I do know that I don't want to live like this anymore and as much as it hurts me I have to let her go. By the way she has been violent and just not a very nice person, the police have been called numerous times last year but not this year so I thought she has changed but apparently not. I need guidance or if any of you could tell me how you handled this situation if you had to it would be much appreciated. Heartbroken but just can't take it anymore. Thanks for reading.