After years of slowly worsening behavior, my (then) 15 year old son spent 12 weeks in wilderness therapy earlier this year. He was there for extreme defiance and physical blow ups at home, school refusal, and at the time possible substance abuse. He also refused any counseling so we turned to Wilderness Therapy out of desperation. Through the process there, we found out that he was smoking marijuana daily and dabbling in other drugs as well. He worked really hard while in the program and returned home in a much much better place. He has been home for 4 months and although its been up and down for the most part he was attending school and getting decent grades, not doing drugs and had way less outbursts at home. He is also willingly going to therapy and taking zoloft for anxiety. He turned 16 last week and it seems that everything is quickly falling apart. He is a very talented athlete who has a coveted spot on his high school team. Suddenly he is skipping practice and games. When he does go, he is rarely on the field. I caught him arranging to buy weed and since has been caught smoking in his room 4 separate times. Despite stripping his room and turning the house inside out, I can not find his stash. I did find his money and took that away. His cell phone was filled with "friends" trying to sell him more weed. I made it clear I was reading every text message and knew what was going on. With that information he willingly gave me his phone and said he didn't want it if I was going to invade his privacy. We confronted him and let him know that if it does not stop we will follow through on our word that we will not tolerate drug use and he needs to leave the house. However, the truth is we can not afford another private pay in patient and we can't kick a minor out. There is nothing to ground him with. He has no phone(his choice), no access to internet, doesn't watch tv, doesn't ask to practice driving, doesn't want to see his friends (part of his social anxiety and also best friend is not allowed to hang with him due to past behaviors) I have no idea what to do. He sees both a therapist (weekly) and a psychiatrist (monthly). I am very worried and wondered if there was anyone who has had to face finding their dependent teen a place to live. I see lots of posts from parents of adult children in that situation but not minors. I love my son so much it breaks me to see this happen. Yet I have younger daughters that i need to think of as well. . Any advice would be really really helpful. Thank you.