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Wiggles77
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Hi again...
This will be my 3rd post on my easy child/difficult child... 6 year old not diagnosed with anything but has extreme behavior issues. This started last year in Kindergarten, mostly in school. Summer was good and now that school is in session I am keeping my fingers crossed.
Problem is, since summer, my child has started to become physical with me. He used to be purely verbal but is now moving on. This is not often (no more than 2-3 times a month?) If I try to stop him from doing something (talking back or going slow), and he gets angry with me, he becomes extremely physical. He will hit me, yell mean words at me, pinch/squeeze me, etc. When I try to leave the situation he will block me... either with his body/hands, or by bringing over a chair or laundry basket.
He won't go to time out... never has, ever since he has a toddler. I used to put toys on time out and that worked for a few years, but now he just gets a chair and takes them off on time out.
I try telling him to take a minute away from me and he yells "no, i am staying RIGHT here!". If I try to take a time out by going into the other room and shut the door, he will bang on the door, kick it, throw things at it... all the time yelling really mean things to me.
TOday his after school care called me at work to come and pick him up because for the first time he did this to the director... squeezed the director's throat after he got in trouble for something. And for 1+ hour said mean things to him and would not listen.
I am at a complete loss at what to do. I try reasoning with him and he won't listen. Or tells me he will stop when I give back whatever I might have taken away (usually a toy or privilege).
What has worked the past 2 times was that I took him into a big bear hug and kept on telling him I loved him. This is the only thing that calms him down. It is the only thing that brings tears to his eyes these days. I don't even know if I should be doing this... is this giving in? Shouldn't I be stronger with him?
I don't know what to do. Don't want him turning into a sociopath. But when he threatens day care workers physically i just dont know. He is only 6! He tells me they can't tell him what to do because they are "just humans" like him. That "humans cant tell other humans what to do". I try explaining that they are special humans who have a job to watch and direct children... but he denies that they should be listened to because they are mean to him? Mean because they are trying to stop him from doing things such as bumping other children?
Bleckkkk.....
This will be my 3rd post on my easy child/difficult child... 6 year old not diagnosed with anything but has extreme behavior issues. This started last year in Kindergarten, mostly in school. Summer was good and now that school is in session I am keeping my fingers crossed.
Problem is, since summer, my child has started to become physical with me. He used to be purely verbal but is now moving on. This is not often (no more than 2-3 times a month?) If I try to stop him from doing something (talking back or going slow), and he gets angry with me, he becomes extremely physical. He will hit me, yell mean words at me, pinch/squeeze me, etc. When I try to leave the situation he will block me... either with his body/hands, or by bringing over a chair or laundry basket.
He won't go to time out... never has, ever since he has a toddler. I used to put toys on time out and that worked for a few years, but now he just gets a chair and takes them off on time out.
I try telling him to take a minute away from me and he yells "no, i am staying RIGHT here!". If I try to take a time out by going into the other room and shut the door, he will bang on the door, kick it, throw things at it... all the time yelling really mean things to me.
TOday his after school care called me at work to come and pick him up because for the first time he did this to the director... squeezed the director's throat after he got in trouble for something. And for 1+ hour said mean things to him and would not listen.
I am at a complete loss at what to do. I try reasoning with him and he won't listen. Or tells me he will stop when I give back whatever I might have taken away (usually a toy or privilege).
What has worked the past 2 times was that I took him into a big bear hug and kept on telling him I loved him. This is the only thing that calms him down. It is the only thing that brings tears to his eyes these days. I don't even know if I should be doing this... is this giving in? Shouldn't I be stronger with him?
I don't know what to do. Don't want him turning into a sociopath. But when he threatens day care workers physically i just dont know. He is only 6! He tells me they can't tell him what to do because they are "just humans" like him. That "humans cant tell other humans what to do". I try explaining that they are special humans who have a job to watch and direct children... but he denies that they should be listened to because they are mean to him? Mean because they are trying to stop him from doing things such as bumping other children?
Bleckkkk.....