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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 132445" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Personally, I have had NO luck with time-outs and my difficult child. Until Jess was about 3 and I tried one with her I just thought they were a ridiculous myth. I do remember my shock when I tried it with Jess and she went, sat, and then could tell me why she was in time-out.</p><p> </p><p>It was such a different thing than my difficult child's namecalling, throwing, hitting, biting abusive tantrum. Sounds like the 1-2-3 thing isn't working.</p><p> </p><p>Often tdocs have suggested tools. Very few of them worked for long. The ONLY one I have seen work is Love and Logic. It made a big change in husband & my parenting style that it ended up making a change in difficult child's behavior.</p><p> </p><p>I know that many here have had excellent results with The Explosive Child. I think if it is working, don't fix it. It will get broken soon enough.</p><p> </p><p>What are your instincts telling you? Follow them, they will steer you the right way. Steered you to us didn't they???</p><p> </p><p>AS far as when his behavior is dangerous, if you can get him to a space where he can't hurt himself or anything, good. If you have to leave the room, do so. We started keeping all the videos in our room, andif he had a fit, the video and the other kids came into our room. He could have his fit, but he had to clean up any messes.</p><p> </p><p>It also protected the other kids.</p><p> </p><p>The biggest thing is don't bluff. If you won't do it, don't say it. If you aren't going to/able make him stop, then ignore as much as you can. Speak up on the BIG issues, let him go on the little ones.</p><p> </p><p>Hugs,</p><p> </p><p>Susie</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 132445, member: 1233"] Personally, I have had NO luck with time-outs and my difficult child. Until Jess was about 3 and I tried one with her I just thought they were a ridiculous myth. I do remember my shock when I tried it with Jess and she went, sat, and then could tell me why she was in time-out. It was such a different thing than my difficult child's namecalling, throwing, hitting, biting abusive tantrum. Sounds like the 1-2-3 thing isn't working. Often tdocs have suggested tools. Very few of them worked for long. The ONLY one I have seen work is Love and Logic. It made a big change in husband & my parenting style that it ended up making a change in difficult child's behavior. I know that many here have had excellent results with The Explosive Child. I think if it is working, don't fix it. It will get broken soon enough. What are your instincts telling you? Follow them, they will steer you the right way. Steered you to us didn't they??? AS far as when his behavior is dangerous, if you can get him to a space where he can't hurt himself or anything, good. If you have to leave the room, do so. We started keeping all the videos in our room, andif he had a fit, the video and the other kids came into our room. He could have his fit, but he had to clean up any messes. It also protected the other kids. The biggest thing is don't bluff. If you won't do it, don't say it. If you aren't going to/able make him stop, then ignore as much as you can. Speak up on the BIG issues, let him go on the little ones. Hugs, Susie [/QUOTE]
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