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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 520280" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>Hi there ! BOY (except for having a husband and a sibling) can I relate!!! With your son's history I would suspect there is something going on other than just a choice to be oppositional and defiant. That I am SURE is what he is doing... but WHY he is doing it will make your intervention much clearer. </p><p></p><p>So, yeah, I totally get that those kinds of punishments just dont work, most of us here with kids who have organic problems, different brain wiring, would probably say the same thing. A couple of books that many of us like... </p><p></p><p>What your Explosive Child is trying to Tell You by Doug Riley and The Explosive Child by Ross Greene... both help to identify skills that our kids are lacking that lead to these kinds of behaviors. </p><p></p><p>Since your son is neurologically involved there could be some issues that you can't see as easily so one way to help sort that out (if you have not already) is to have a complete Occupational Therapy (Occupational Therapist (OT)) evaluation done to look at his motor skills AND his sensory integration abilities. Also, get a full Speech/Language Evaluation and as many of us find here... along with communication (speech/language/social communication) have them look at Auditory Processing...there are several types and they can really frustrate a child to the level that they seem out of control. </p><p></p><p>WHile you are getting that done (and by the way, I am talking about private evaluations if you can swing it...some insurance will pay, my son has MA and it is fully covered) make an appointment with a neuropsychologist to do a full (several hours long) evaluation to look at all areas of development, including academics, what you learn from the Occupational Therapist (OT) and Speech Language Pathologist (SLP) and they will look at the differential diagnosis... is it learning issues, is it mood disorder etc... they are much more broad in their view than a typical psychologist or psychiatrist etc. (some use a developmental pediatrician...some use a team clinic kind of evaluation...but make sure it is broad based). Neuropsychologists look at how the brain (and any known brain injury) is related to behavior. Really good recommendations often come from these kinds of evaluations.</p><p></p><p>It is exhausting to have a child who gets so violent and trust me.... restraining him may be necessarily in an emergency but he will eventually be too big to do that safely. Even when small it is dangerous. My son was just injured in a school restraint. Please get proper training if you go that route because you can be held liable if something happens. (Plus for some it escalates them)</p><p></p><p>Glad you found us, you are in good company... many many here with similar concerns. Hang tough....keep posting....</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 520280, member: 12886"] Hi there ! BOY (except for having a husband and a sibling) can I relate!!! With your son's history I would suspect there is something going on other than just a choice to be oppositional and defiant. That I am SURE is what he is doing... but WHY he is doing it will make your intervention much clearer. So, yeah, I totally get that those kinds of punishments just dont work, most of us here with kids who have organic problems, different brain wiring, would probably say the same thing. A couple of books that many of us like... What your Explosive Child is trying to Tell You by Doug Riley and The Explosive Child by Ross Greene... both help to identify skills that our kids are lacking that lead to these kinds of behaviors. Since your son is neurologically involved there could be some issues that you can't see as easily so one way to help sort that out (if you have not already) is to have a complete Occupational Therapy (Occupational Therapist (OT)) evaluation done to look at his motor skills AND his sensory integration abilities. Also, get a full Speech/Language Evaluation and as many of us find here... along with communication (speech/language/social communication) have them look at Auditory Processing...there are several types and they can really frustrate a child to the level that they seem out of control. WHile you are getting that done (and by the way, I am talking about private evaluations if you can swing it...some insurance will pay, my son has MA and it is fully covered) make an appointment with a neuropsychologist to do a full (several hours long) evaluation to look at all areas of development, including academics, what you learn from the Occupational Therapist (OT) and Speech Language Pathologist (SLP) and they will look at the differential diagnosis... is it learning issues, is it mood disorder etc... they are much more broad in their view than a typical psychologist or psychiatrist etc. (some use a developmental pediatrician...some use a team clinic kind of evaluation...but make sure it is broad based). Neuropsychologists look at how the brain (and any known brain injury) is related to behavior. Really good recommendations often come from these kinds of evaluations. It is exhausting to have a child who gets so violent and trust me.... restraining him may be necessarily in an emergency but he will eventually be too big to do that safely. Even when small it is dangerous. My son was just injured in a school restraint. Please get proper training if you go that route because you can be held liable if something happens. (Plus for some it escalates them) Glad you found us, you are in good company... many many here with similar concerns. Hang tough....keep posting.... [/QUOTE]
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