I am new to this forum. I am so thankful that I found it. I have been struggling with my son who is now 6 years old since his birth. He has always been a very difficult child. Over the years we have had several diagnosis. Finally, last March he had to be hospitalized. At that time, he was given a diagnosis of ODD and mild depression. It couldn't fit better. His biological father is in the military and we have been divorced since my son was 2. I am newly remarried for the past 6 months. Of course, I have been told by everyone that knows anything about my oldest son how to parent him. Unfortunately, no one has ever volunteered to take him home far a week and tell me how to do it after he was to come home. My new husband is so wonderful. My two sons are like night and day. Dylan, my 6 year old, who has ODD has really given me a run for my money. Luckily, my new husband has really hung in there and been very supportive of the situation and he has taken on the father role for my boys. They do see bio. dad on some weekends but not very regular. Bio dad is of course in denial that there is anything wrong with his precious first born. He believes it be a lack of parenting on my part. Even though my son has done many of the same behaviors here at home and school and he has done at bio dads house. Bio dad just gets to bring Dylan and his little brother home after his weekend and and not worry about Dylan anymore. I have really hit a crossroads with Dylan right now. I have gotten a lot of support from his school, which helps tremendously, but nothing is working. He is on medication but that isn't working anymore. Now he tries to excuse his bad behavior with I didn't take my medicine excuses. He has never missed a dose here at home but he uses the excuse that if he took it at school and not in the morning at home he wouldn't get in trouble at school. My house is ran very firmly, there are strict rules and strict consequences for bad behavior. I am at a lose though. Nothing is working at all. The rules aren't working, the discipline isn't working, the medicine isn't working (so I don't even know why he is taking it now), absolutely nothing is getting through to my son. I am absolutely fed up and at a loss with him. I do not know where to go from here. He is mean and says ugly things and he is rude to people and of course he is very very aggressive. I am seriously considering sending him to live with his bio dad for several reasons. I have his little brother in the home he is seeing this behavior and it is distressing to him as well the two adults that live here. I do not know what to do anymore. Please if anyone has any suggestions I am all ears.
