Welcome to the board! You have found a wonderful group of people here who are both great for advice and support.
What medications is he on now? Is he seeing a psychiatrist for his medications or a pediatrician? Has he ever had a multi-disciplinary evaluation by a neuropsychologist?
Sometimes medications can stop working.
Have you heard of the book "The Explosive Child" by Ross Greene? It's a good read and highly recommended on this site. You should be able to check it out at your local library.
I'm so sorry for what you're going through. I know how difficult ODD behavior can be. I have one with that diagnosis as well. He refuses to do his class work, refuses to follow rules, destroys others things, sneaks things, steals things and so on. I'm sure you're familiar with some of those traits.
(((hugs))) and again, welcome to the board! More will be along shortly to offer some additional input.
