It never fails that both my difficult children end up in some type of crisis at the same time. Oldest seems to have lost yet another job. It's the same story, she was unfairly treated, she's the victim, they were wrong, yada yada yada. She's gone through so many restaurant/bars in this area, it's getting hard to find new ones for which to work. Plus she hangs out in those bars and parties, so they know her and her temper and sometimes unstable behavior. In this case, reading between the lines, she was reprimanded for something, was in a bad mood, and snapped back at her manager. He told her they needed to discuss her employment status, she replied, "if you're going to fire me, just do it right now." He suspended her for 30 days instead. It's never her fault, of course. The bad mood excuses her behavior. He shouldn't have messed with her when she was in a bad mood, see. She says she always has the worst luck ... can't catch a break.. etc. etc. She was already late on her November rent, and now she can't pay that nor her December rent. She says her landlord is telling her she has to be out by Friday.. but I reminded her he has to formally evict her through teh court, serve her, give 30 days notice etc. I mentioned that doesnt' mean her roommates can't make her life miserable between now and then. She said her life couldn't get more miserable than it is right now. She called me to relate all this... and I listened then said, "I'm sorry, Oldest, but I've heard all this before." That ticked her off pretty badly. Just yesterday I had offered to bring her groceries because she said she couldn't afford to eat more than one meal a day. Now her mood has switched from despondent to defiant and resentful. She announced she would have someone drop off the bed and dresser I gave her, since she had no where to take them. I couldn't help it, I stifled a scoff (oooh the drama) .. she heard it over the phone and got mad again. FINE I'll just give them away ... Trying to remember that she does this to herself, over and over. I don't need to feel sorry for her and take her in. I don't want to enable her. This is going to be tough though.