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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 470107" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>And they DO learn the system.</p><p></p><p>Look, you have another child and a husband and your own life and it sounds like you've done everything you can. Unless difficult child decides he desperately wants to change and is going to work like a biotch to change, he won't. You can't make anyone change by putting him into any program. No therapy will help somebody who doesn't have a high motivation level to to live a better life. No matter what you try, he has to reach into his soul first...before anything will help him.</p><p></p><p>If anyone had told me this before we adopted R., who turned out to be a psychopath in spite of how much we loved him, I would have been horrified to think somebody would advise me to EVER stop fighting for my own child. But now I know that it is useless to help somebody who is either genetically damaged or damaged too much from past life experiences and not really interested in being a different kind of person. Now I'm telling you...don't play his games or waste your life. Enjoy your blessings....the family and friends you have who value you and treat you well. You do not have to take abuse even from your own child.</p><p></p><p>JMO, of course.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 470107, member: 1550"] And they DO learn the system. Look, you have another child and a husband and your own life and it sounds like you've done everything you can. Unless difficult child decides he desperately wants to change and is going to work like a biotch to change, he won't. You can't make anyone change by putting him into any program. No therapy will help somebody who doesn't have a high motivation level to to live a better life. No matter what you try, he has to reach into his soul first...before anything will help him. If anyone had told me this before we adopted R., who turned out to be a psychopath in spite of how much we loved him, I would have been horrified to think somebody would advise me to EVER stop fighting for my own child. But now I know that it is useless to help somebody who is either genetically damaged or damaged too much from past life experiences and not really interested in being a different kind of person. Now I'm telling you...don't play his games or waste your life. Enjoy your blessings....the family and friends you have who value you and treat you well. You do not have to take abuse even from your own child. JMO, of course. [/QUOTE]
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