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<blockquote data-quote="scaredofhim" data-source="post: 626190" data-attributes="member: 17051"><p>I had a talk with SS last Thursday after we picked him up from school because of his meltdown and husband left him here with me to go to work. SS is always telling the therapists he is angry, and when they ask him why he is angry all he will say is "I don't know, I just am." Well I asked him if he was angry at his dad or I and he said no, he said he is angry at his bio mom. I asked why and he said because of her job and the long hours she works. He is at latchkey before school and then after school until 6:00PM and sometimes later, and he is always the last child picked up. That's 10 1/2 hours of day at school and he said he hates being there so long. He said he has asked his mom to get another job closer to home and she tells him she can't do that because she would have to work even longer hours. Not sure I buy that one but that is what she tells him. He said to me, "her job is more important to her that I am." I also talked to him about the school meltdowns and anxiety and asked him if he thought that being away from his video games that many hours a day (he is SERIOUSLY addicted to them) might be the reason he hates being at school and he indicated that yes, it's a problem. I have seen this first hand with him last summer. We had returned from church to find that we had locked ourselves out of the house. Had to call a locksmith and it was going to be a two hour wait for the locksmith to arrive. SS was anxious the whole time, kept pacing, shaking his foot, chewing his fingers, and asking constantly how much longer. I asked him then why he was so fidgety and what was the matter and he said he was nervous because he needed to get inside. I said why because of the video games and he said yes. So it is clearly is a serious problem for him, he cannot stand to be away from the video games for any length of time so I can see why this would be a problem during the long school day. I am stressed out because he has 18 days of school left and husband cannot keep leaving work to go get him to take him to daycare simply because he doesn't want to be at school, he will lose his job. I have talked to husband about my concern for his job and he doesn't seem concerned about it at all. But I am very concerned! He's in his 50's and was unemployed for two years and we had it very rough financially. If he loses this job he may not get another one, it's very hard to find work in your 50's. I don't want to go back to the financial struggles that we had for those two long years. He makes decent money at his job, but the job is through a temp service. It's a long contract, but it doesn't take much for a temp service to get rid of you. If he loses his job, we will be homeless because he hasn't worked long enough yet to qualify for unemployment. He thinks I worry too much about the job but I can't help it. If he loses his job because he keeps taking time off work to deal with SS I am going to have a big problem with that. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /> Bio mom gets paid time off and has a cushy job with the govt. She can go get SS from school. Anyway, I am going to pass along what SS told me to his dr. and therapists, hoping it will help somehow. Thanks for listening to me vent this morning. Please keep us in your prayers.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="scaredofhim, post: 626190, member: 17051"] I had a talk with SS last Thursday after we picked him up from school because of his meltdown and husband left him here with me to go to work. SS is always telling the therapists he is angry, and when they ask him why he is angry all he will say is "I don't know, I just am." Well I asked him if he was angry at his dad or I and he said no, he said he is angry at his bio mom. I asked why and he said because of her job and the long hours she works. He is at latchkey before school and then after school until 6:00PM and sometimes later, and he is always the last child picked up. That's 10 1/2 hours of day at school and he said he hates being there so long. He said he has asked his mom to get another job closer to home and she tells him she can't do that because she would have to work even longer hours. Not sure I buy that one but that is what she tells him. He said to me, "her job is more important to her that I am." I also talked to him about the school meltdowns and anxiety and asked him if he thought that being away from his video games that many hours a day (he is SERIOUSLY addicted to them) might be the reason he hates being at school and he indicated that yes, it's a problem. I have seen this first hand with him last summer. We had returned from church to find that we had locked ourselves out of the house. Had to call a locksmith and it was going to be a two hour wait for the locksmith to arrive. SS was anxious the whole time, kept pacing, shaking his foot, chewing his fingers, and asking constantly how much longer. I asked him then why he was so fidgety and what was the matter and he said he was nervous because he needed to get inside. I said why because of the video games and he said yes. So it is clearly is a serious problem for him, he cannot stand to be away from the video games for any length of time so I can see why this would be a problem during the long school day. I am stressed out because he has 18 days of school left and husband cannot keep leaving work to go get him to take him to daycare simply because he doesn't want to be at school, he will lose his job. I have talked to husband about my concern for his job and he doesn't seem concerned about it at all. But I am very concerned! He's in his 50's and was unemployed for two years and we had it very rough financially. If he loses this job he may not get another one, it's very hard to find work in your 50's. I don't want to go back to the financial struggles that we had for those two long years. He makes decent money at his job, but the job is through a temp service. It's a long contract, but it doesn't take much for a temp service to get rid of you. If he loses his job, we will be homeless because he hasn't worked long enough yet to qualify for unemployment. He thinks I worry too much about the job but I can't help it. If he loses his job because he keeps taking time off work to deal with SS I am going to have a big problem with that. :( Bio mom gets paid time off and has a cushy job with the govt. She can go get SS from school. Anyway, I am going to pass along what SS told me to his dr. and therapists, hoping it will help somehow. Thanks for listening to me vent this morning. Please keep us in your prayers. [/QUOTE]
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