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<blockquote data-quote="scaredofhim" data-source="post: 628393" data-attributes="member: 17051"><p>A little update about the camp that has been suggested for SS. Apparently bio mom has made some plans to be away, so she is telling him he has to go and he is still flat refusing. If she tries to force him he will have a psychotic break, there is no doubt about it. But bio mom is adamant that he is going, because we think she has made plans to be away. She told us some huge lie about needing to be away for work not only the week that SS is at camp, but also the week after. I will not go into detail here, but we know for a fact that the reason she gave us for needing to be away for two weeks is not work related at all, it is a total fabrication. She has planned a little getaway, which is fine. I understand that it is difficult for her to deal with SS and her other son since they both have mental issues and she needs a break. But she hinted that she will need "someone" to keep SS the week after camp, and there is no way in you-know-where that I am going to agree to babysit him. She can have her mother come and watch him or take him to her brothers. husband will not be here the majority of the time due to his work schedule, the very same reason I don't want to do SS's 30 day visit this summer. The 30 day visit is the regular summer visitation, but bio mom's little getaway is not. We are not obligated to keep him. He is not my child, and I am not doing it, period. Bio mom told us that SS is becoming more and more anti-social, like a hermit. He stays in his room almost 24 hours a day, comes down to eat and goes back up and gets back on the computer to play games. His hygiene continues to be atrocious. We did get him to shower while he was here visiting last weekend. I picked up the clothes that he had been wearing to wash them and the smell of the clothes was absolutely horrible. I asked him when he showered last and he couldn't remember, and I asked how long he had been wearing those clothes and he couldn't remember that either. His toenails are long and dirty and he won't cut them. And he got urine and feces all over the toilet again this past weekend. Ugh! <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /> This is all just too much for me...it's too much stress. I was just diagnosed last week with a underactive thyroid and a huge painful cyst on my right ovary. Dr. thinks it's benign so they are going to follow it with repeat ultrasounds to make sure it stays stable or resolves. But I am in pain, stressed, dealing with menopause symptoms too...plus my oldest daughter's liver is failing and my younger sister just had a stoke last month and she was just told yesterday that her kidneys are failing as well. I just feel so overwhelmed right now. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /> I am not up to dealing with SS too. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /> God help me....Prayers appreciated.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="scaredofhim, post: 628393, member: 17051"] A little update about the camp that has been suggested for SS. Apparently bio mom has made some plans to be away, so she is telling him he has to go and he is still flat refusing. If she tries to force him he will have a psychotic break, there is no doubt about it. But bio mom is adamant that he is going, because we think she has made plans to be away. She told us some huge lie about needing to be away for work not only the week that SS is at camp, but also the week after. I will not go into detail here, but we know for a fact that the reason she gave us for needing to be away for two weeks is not work related at all, it is a total fabrication. She has planned a little getaway, which is fine. I understand that it is difficult for her to deal with SS and her other son since they both have mental issues and she needs a break. But she hinted that she will need "someone" to keep SS the week after camp, and there is no way in you-know-where that I am going to agree to babysit him. She can have her mother come and watch him or take him to her brothers. husband will not be here the majority of the time due to his work schedule, the very same reason I don't want to do SS's 30 day visit this summer. The 30 day visit is the regular summer visitation, but bio mom's little getaway is not. We are not obligated to keep him. He is not my child, and I am not doing it, period. Bio mom told us that SS is becoming more and more anti-social, like a hermit. He stays in his room almost 24 hours a day, comes down to eat and goes back up and gets back on the computer to play games. His hygiene continues to be atrocious. We did get him to shower while he was here visiting last weekend. I picked up the clothes that he had been wearing to wash them and the smell of the clothes was absolutely horrible. I asked him when he showered last and he couldn't remember, and I asked how long he had been wearing those clothes and he couldn't remember that either. His toenails are long and dirty and he won't cut them. And he got urine and feces all over the toilet again this past weekend. Ugh! :( This is all just too much for me...it's too much stress. I was just diagnosed last week with a underactive thyroid and a huge painful cyst on my right ovary. Dr. thinks it's benign so they are going to follow it with repeat ultrasounds to make sure it stays stable or resolves. But I am in pain, stressed, dealing with menopause symptoms too...plus my oldest daughter's liver is failing and my younger sister just had a stoke last month and she was just told yesterday that her kidneys are failing as well. I just feel so overwhelmed right now. :( I am not up to dealing with SS too. :( God help me....Prayers appreciated. [/QUOTE]
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