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<blockquote data-quote="Kalahou" data-source="post: 763166" data-attributes="member: 19617"><p>Aloha Leaf,</p><p></p><p>It is the same with me Leaf. I have not posted here for so long (<em>too painful</em>) but I visit this site almost daily to keep strong and steadfast, and give silent / behind the scenes support. Gleaning truths and wisdom from you, our old friend Copa and others has saved me repeatedly from depths of despair.</p><p></p><p>I have missed you, dear Tita, and followed along with your threads and postings. I so often think of you and hold you and yours in <em>pule kakou</em> as I daily walk out and about , looking up through tears at the big sky, across the island shore, over the beautiful pali, and through our dramatic clouds and rainbows. It is one of my ways to stay grounded, to hear the small voice that whispers “<em>you are going to be alright</em>.”</p><p></p><p>I hold you with love, comfort and understanding, and am so sorry we continue in these situations. My son (now 43) has been back in jail almost one year and is awaiting a further sentencing. I almost selfishly hope he will continue in a facility, because it is more relief for me to know he is inside. He communicates that he wants to put these chapters of his life behind him and wants a new chance, but we have heard that many times before, only to go through the “rinse / repeat” cycle over and over. I pray he will come to his point of readiness, if it is to be. In the meantime, I am learning a new mantra – “<em>Love what is</em>.”</p><p></p><p>Yes, heartbreaking. My two “grands” (15 yrs & 12) from this son are thankfully well cared for in their mom’s family. I am sure his absence affects them, but it is sad that they act as if they have mostly forgotten their dad as he is not part of their lives.</p><p></p><p>I am 76 years and know my need to keep my mind and body low-key and peaceful, even through frequent unbidden tears. I have kept working full-time (telework mostly), mainly to force my focus through the days to other needs.</p><p></p><p></p><p>Yes, the more we go through each situation, we realize we do get through it one way or another, little by little, and while it is not what we would chose or like, there is some protection from the callous that has built up. Fears arise but serve no helpful purpose. You - and all that pertains to you and yours - are going to be alright. I give thanks for your ohana circle, for the loving hearts somewhere deep in Rain and Tornado, and for the great blessing, comfort and support you have from those caring others in the fam.</p><p></p><p>Stay strong, Leaf, and thank you for the update so we can circle the wagons. This is a safe place.</p><p>** It is a new day. Malama pono.</p><p></p><p>Kalahou</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Kalahou, post: 763166, member: 19617"] Aloha Leaf, It is the same with me Leaf. I have not posted here for so long ([I]too painful[/I]) but I visit this site almost daily to keep strong and steadfast, and give silent / behind the scenes support. Gleaning truths and wisdom from you, our old friend Copa and others has saved me repeatedly from depths of despair. I have missed you, dear Tita, and followed along with your threads and postings. I so often think of you and hold you and yours in [I]pule kakou[/I] as I daily walk out and about , looking up through tears at the big sky, across the island shore, over the beautiful pali, and through our dramatic clouds and rainbows. It is one of my ways to stay grounded, to hear the small voice that whispers “[I]you are going to be alright[/I].” I hold you with love, comfort and understanding, and am so sorry we continue in these situations. My son (now 43) has been back in jail almost one year and is awaiting a further sentencing. I almost selfishly hope he will continue in a facility, because it is more relief for me to know he is inside. He communicates that he wants to put these chapters of his life behind him and wants a new chance, but we have heard that many times before, only to go through the “rinse / repeat” cycle over and over. I pray he will come to his point of readiness, if it is to be. In the meantime, I am learning a new mantra – “[I]Love what is[/I].” Yes, heartbreaking. My two “grands” (15 yrs & 12) from this son are thankfully well cared for in their mom’s family. I am sure his absence affects them, but it is sad that they act as if they have mostly forgotten their dad as he is not part of their lives. I am 76 years and know my need to keep my mind and body low-key and peaceful, even through frequent unbidden tears. I have kept working full-time (telework mostly), mainly to force my focus through the days to other needs. Yes, the more we go through each situation, we realize we do get through it one way or another, little by little, and while it is not what we would chose or like, there is some protection from the callous that has built up. Fears arise but serve no helpful purpose. You - and all that pertains to you and yours - are going to be alright. I give thanks for your ohana circle, for the loving hearts somewhere deep in Rain and Tornado, and for the great blessing, comfort and support you have from those caring others in the fam. Stay strong, Leaf, and thank you for the update so we can circle the wagons. This is a safe place. ** It is a new day. Malama pono. Kalahou [/QUOTE]
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