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He's gone & I am heartbroken yet resigned. Need to remember to breathe,
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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 500457" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>Of course he blames you, both because you caught on to him and because he has to deflect, he has to blame you or else he would have to look at himself and he can't do that. It's so hard on you because you are always the one to want to believe him, to give him that hug and tell him it would be OK, and for that you get blamed for ruining his life because he can't accept that he is ruining his own life.</p><p></p><p>I found myself very angry at difficult child's boyfriend also who helped her fall into her abyss of alcohol/pot and most of all to the pothead neighbor who let her live there and fall deeper into her abyss because we were monster psychotic parents. I think for me the anger helped me get through it in the beginning and was a normal part of my grieving.</p><p></p><p>At any rate everything you describe sounds so familiar to me as if I was reliving it again. </p><p></p><p>I hope you can find something this weekend to relieve some of the sadness you feel.</p><p></p><p>Nancy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 500457, member: 59"] Of course he blames you, both because you caught on to him and because he has to deflect, he has to blame you or else he would have to look at himself and he can't do that. It's so hard on you because you are always the one to want to believe him, to give him that hug and tell him it would be OK, and for that you get blamed for ruining his life because he can't accept that he is ruining his own life. I found myself very angry at difficult child's boyfriend also who helped her fall into her abyss of alcohol/pot and most of all to the pothead neighbor who let her live there and fall deeper into her abyss because we were monster psychotic parents. I think for me the anger helped me get through it in the beginning and was a normal part of my grieving. At any rate everything you describe sounds so familiar to me as if I was reliving it again. I hope you can find something this weekend to relieve some of the sadness you feel. Nancy [/QUOTE]
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