rejectedmom
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difficult child was released today. We picked him up this morning and then went shoping for a few things he needed, took him to lunch and then had his intake for the group home this afternoon. The prison released him with no medications and no perscription. Then didn't return any calls that the socialization services made to try and get them for difficult child. difficult child was on litium and Prozac. He had them this morning before he left prison but by 2pm he was shaking uncontrollably. Does anyone know what stopping these medications cold like that can do to difficult child?
The intake was long we had to go through reams of paperwork then finally about 4pm we were taken over to the home. The place is old but clean. Unfortunately it is in the worst part of the city and difficult child was told not to walk around in the neighborhood at all that it is very dangerous. His caseworker told him to only go directly to the program and then directly back to the house not to linger or talk to anyone. Oh yeah, I can really see this working.
So we got difficult child all settled in and then left. We were about three blocks away when we realized we hadn't given him any money and he is going with the group to the county fair tomorrow so we swung around and went back only to find difficult child smoking a cigarette outside on the steps. He hasn't had one in a year is out of our sight ten minutes and he's smoking again. husband says to me "he is an idiot". "Thanks" I said "your comment doesn't help me work through all this concern I'm having."
We are worried about him going off his medications and in a new environment etc.
When we got home I once again approach my husband about going back on his own AD medications as a precaution against sinking back into depression and he says no. husband tells me he thinks he (husband) will be OK. I tell him that his history gives me no confidence in that statment to which he says the subject is closed. I shrugged and walked away.
A bit later my daughter called. She told me that she is wants to meet with difficult child alone first and lay down the ground rules before allowing him to see her children. No problem with that. The problem is with the fact she has never told the kids that difficult child was in prison this last year. I think she should have. She told them that he was away at college. Even when I told her that their cousins knew the truth and might tell them she stood firmly against tell them the truth. When the kids asked her how come their other uncle came home on the holidays and difficult child didn't she made up some cacamaimy excuse.
Anyway she continues talking and tells me that my grandson told his other grandmother that he thinks difficult child's birth mother is trying to take him away from us and that is why he hasn't come home for so long. I told her that I think mayby she should tell the kids the truth. I say that I am concerned that they will find out by overhearing someone talking and then they will be angry that everyone lied to them. Daughter says that she and her husband have given difficult child a clean slate with her kids by not telling them at which I interject "there is another way to look at this" At which point she gets all snippy and rudely cuts me off and says "I'm not looking at it another way. THIS IS WHAT I AM DOING!"
I shut up but boy, was I angry with her tone. I told her I was tired and that she needed to let me go get some sleep.
So I'm emotionally exhausted. And not too happy with some in my family right now who tend to add more stress on instead of taking a little off.
Oh well now I really do need to get some sleep. -RM
The intake was long we had to go through reams of paperwork then finally about 4pm we were taken over to the home. The place is old but clean. Unfortunately it is in the worst part of the city and difficult child was told not to walk around in the neighborhood at all that it is very dangerous. His caseworker told him to only go directly to the program and then directly back to the house not to linger or talk to anyone. Oh yeah, I can really see this working.
So we got difficult child all settled in and then left. We were about three blocks away when we realized we hadn't given him any money and he is going with the group to the county fair tomorrow so we swung around and went back only to find difficult child smoking a cigarette outside on the steps. He hasn't had one in a year is out of our sight ten minutes and he's smoking again. husband says to me "he is an idiot". "Thanks" I said "your comment doesn't help me work through all this concern I'm having."
We are worried about him going off his medications and in a new environment etc.
When we got home I once again approach my husband about going back on his own AD medications as a precaution against sinking back into depression and he says no. husband tells me he thinks he (husband) will be OK. I tell him that his history gives me no confidence in that statment to which he says the subject is closed. I shrugged and walked away.
A bit later my daughter called. She told me that she is wants to meet with difficult child alone first and lay down the ground rules before allowing him to see her children. No problem with that. The problem is with the fact she has never told the kids that difficult child was in prison this last year. I think she should have. She told them that he was away at college. Even when I told her that their cousins knew the truth and might tell them she stood firmly against tell them the truth. When the kids asked her how come their other uncle came home on the holidays and difficult child didn't she made up some cacamaimy excuse.
Anyway she continues talking and tells me that my grandson told his other grandmother that he thinks difficult child's birth mother is trying to take him away from us and that is why he hasn't come home for so long. I told her that I think mayby she should tell the kids the truth. I say that I am concerned that they will find out by overhearing someone talking and then they will be angry that everyone lied to them. Daughter says that she and her husband have given difficult child a clean slate with her kids by not telling them at which I interject "there is another way to look at this" At which point she gets all snippy and rudely cuts me off and says "I'm not looking at it another way. THIS IS WHAT I AM DOING!"
I shut up but boy, was I angry with her tone. I told her I was tired and that she needed to let me go get some sleep.
So I'm emotionally exhausted. And not too happy with some in my family right now who tend to add more stress on instead of taking a little off.
Oh well now I really do need to get some sleep. -RM