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He's so sad, it is breaking my heart...
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<blockquote data-quote="toughlovin" data-source="post: 376426"><p>Oh I feel for you. It is so so hard to see our kids hurting and sometimes you just have to let them get through it.</p><p></p><p>I remember well when my son came home and told me I was not his real mom. Some boy in his class had told him if you are adopted the person you live with is not your real mom.</p><p></p><p>Luckily I had thought about this before it ever came up. So I looked at him and said, what do you mean I am not real? I am not rubber. I am very real!!! I then said everyone in adoption is real! I am real and your birthmother is real. We are all real.</p><p></p><p>It then kind of became a joke that I was made of rubber and we could laugh when the term "real mom" came up.</p><p></p><p>Don't know if this helps.... but Tigger knows you are his mom, but he is also feeling the loss and confusion of adoption right now. The terms people mistakenly use "real mom" probably comes from others and just adds to the confusion. I would somehow reassure him that you are very real and you are his mom and that you love him.... and yes he also has a birth mom.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toughlovin, post: 376426"] Oh I feel for you. It is so so hard to see our kids hurting and sometimes you just have to let them get through it. I remember well when my son came home and told me I was not his real mom. Some boy in his class had told him if you are adopted the person you live with is not your real mom. Luckily I had thought about this before it ever came up. So I looked at him and said, what do you mean I am not real? I am not rubber. I am very real!!! I then said everyone in adoption is real! I am real and your birthmother is real. We are all real. It then kind of became a joke that I was made of rubber and we could laugh when the term "real mom" came up. Don't know if this helps.... but Tigger knows you are his mom, but he is also feeling the loss and confusion of adoption right now. The terms people mistakenly use "real mom" probably comes from others and just adds to the confusion. I would somehow reassure him that you are very real and you are his mom and that you love him.... and yes he also has a birth mom. [/QUOTE]
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