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Hey, Cedar, or anyone interested in FOO (Family of Origin) issues. Cedar, WHY NOW???
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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 658603" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>I wanted to add that the issues resolved (and resolving still) between D H and I in our marriage are the issues that enabled me to examine my essential self rather than to repeat the legacy my mother acted out with her own children.</p><p></p><p>Like always when the thing you found seems to resonate on so many levels and so, is probably some version of true, there are no heroes here, and there are no villains. We all are doing the best we know and when we know better, we do better. Every one of us, including my mom. I admire her courage. I am certain she fought a good fight that she could not win. She cannot possess and lay claim to healing because she knows that, in losing that battle with self hatred, she failed. She literally cannot face that and so, hatred and self hatred and other hatred continues to be the order of the day.</p><p></p><p>It could be that at some point, I will have the words for her. I am good with words but, like I always say here, I need to know what I see before I say words that can address it in a way that perceptions can change.</p><p></p><p>So, that is all I know, <em>for today.</em></p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 658603, member: 17461"] I wanted to add that the issues resolved (and resolving still) between D H and I in our marriage are the issues that enabled me to examine my essential self rather than to repeat the legacy my mother acted out with her own children. Like always when the thing you found seems to resonate on so many levels and so, is probably some version of true, there are no heroes here, and there are no villains. We all are doing the best we know and when we know better, we do better. Every one of us, including my mom. I admire her courage. I am certain she fought a good fight that she could not win. She cannot possess and lay claim to healing because she knows that, in losing that battle with self hatred, she failed. She literally cannot face that and so, hatred and self hatred and other hatred continues to be the order of the day. It could be that at some point, I will have the words for her. I am good with words but, like I always say here, I need to know what I see before I say words that can address it in a way that perceptions can change. So, that is all I know, [I]for today.[/I] Cedar [/QUOTE]
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