Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
Hi.
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="OTE" data-source="post: 738574"><p>Lil. I appreciate the thoughts.</p><p></p><p>With my strengths and weaknesses I find my life works best if I keep it simple. In every way. No expensive electronics. I'm now on a phone that gets on the internet so don't have wi fi. We watch dvds we own or borrow from library. No tv. No commercials. No news on violence or politics. Philosophy from an engineer boyfriend a lifetime ago....the simpler it is the less there is to break.</p><p></p><p>This applies to my way of thinking too. I don't lie so I don't need to keep lies straight. I don't talk about anyone including my kids behind their back. Calling them difficult, something I would never say to their face, is just not something I do. But its also easier for me because mine are adults now. They're not easy now. Nor am I. But its not what it was then. And we can and do back away from each other if necessary. Can't do that with minors!</p><p></p><p>At one time a family member of mine was lurking here. I felt I had to censor what I said. No more. If my kids want to lurk there won't be anything but the truth here from me. And the truth is I don't call them difficult.</p><p></p><p>Leaders set the tone that everyone falls in line with. On a website that tone is set by the graphics, wording, policies, etc. Policy here, as set by editing software does not allow me to call my children gifts if I so desire. It changes my wording to difficult. Call it free speech, I don't want someone dictating to me what wording i can use.</p><p></p><p>The same applies to ratings. I don't want to be judged and don't want to judge others. Someone is going to be offended some day in some way. Totally unnecessary. Maybe you personally don't look at them. I certainly wouldn't. But the fact that they are there and others use them is troublesome to me.</p><p></p><p>Residential settings, rehabs, whatever have a "therapeutic milieu". That is, "a soft place to land". That was Fran's term and she made it happen by reading the boards every day, every post and reply. As I said, that's no longer what this is. I see lots of things in threads that just shouldn't be there resulting in contentious replies and hurt feelings. And its leadership in things like judging each other that destroy a therapeutic setting.</p><p></p><p>This used to be a very active board. Its not anymore, relatively. Sad for me to see. I wasn't here to see how, when or why it changed. I know something happened from contact I've had over the years. Sad. </p><p></p><p>Sorry.. Not a soft place for me to land anymore. I wish you all the best. I've given it a try but can't do it</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="OTE, post: 738574"] Lil. I appreciate the thoughts. With my strengths and weaknesses I find my life works best if I keep it simple. In every way. No expensive electronics. I'm now on a phone that gets on the internet so don't have wi fi. We watch dvds we own or borrow from library. No tv. No commercials. No news on violence or politics. Philosophy from an engineer boyfriend a lifetime ago....the simpler it is the less there is to break. This applies to my way of thinking too. I don't lie so I don't need to keep lies straight. I don't talk about anyone including my kids behind their back. Calling them difficult, something I would never say to their face, is just not something I do. But its also easier for me because mine are adults now. They're not easy now. Nor am I. But its not what it was then. And we can and do back away from each other if necessary. Can't do that with minors! At one time a family member of mine was lurking here. I felt I had to censor what I said. No more. If my kids want to lurk there won't be anything but the truth here from me. And the truth is I don't call them difficult. Leaders set the tone that everyone falls in line with. On a website that tone is set by the graphics, wording, policies, etc. Policy here, as set by editing software does not allow me to call my children gifts if I so desire. It changes my wording to difficult. Call it free speech, I don't want someone dictating to me what wording i can use. The same applies to ratings. I don't want to be judged and don't want to judge others. Someone is going to be offended some day in some way. Totally unnecessary. Maybe you personally don't look at them. I certainly wouldn't. But the fact that they are there and others use them is troublesome to me. Residential settings, rehabs, whatever have a "therapeutic milieu". That is, "a soft place to land". That was Fran's term and she made it happen by reading the boards every day, every post and reply. As I said, that's no longer what this is. I see lots of things in threads that just shouldn't be there resulting in contentious replies and hurt feelings. And its leadership in things like judging each other that destroy a therapeutic setting. This used to be a very active board. Its not anymore, relatively. Sad for me to see. I wasn't here to see how, when or why it changed. I know something happened from contact I've had over the years. Sad. Sorry.. Not a soft place for me to land anymore. I wish you all the best. I've given it a try but can't do it [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
Hi.
Top