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<blockquote data-quote="toughlovin" data-source="post: 419233"><p>I think his point was addicts always look for the alternative plan to facing their addiction and themselves. His coming back here and living with his girlfriend was his alternative plan... and as a parent if I could cut that plan off he would have no where else to turn but facing himself where he was. That made sense to me and I tried to feel out the girlfriend. What I found out from doing that is my son has not changed, he is doing the same old thing and he is trying to escape the hard work of recovery. It was probably not a good move in terms of our relationship but at this point I don't even think that matters. We can't have a good relationship as long as he is running away from himself. I can do no more. So I am done.... and I realize I need a break from him and his drama. I am sure he won't contact us for awhile and that is probably good although it will be hard. I feel very sad but I also know I will survive this... I am not going to let myself get into the pain as I have in the past. I am there in the moment but I will go on. I will find a way to keep detaching and have a happy life. I have to for the myself, my husband and my daughter. I think he knows we love him and I suspect he knows my trying to contact his girlfriend was because I love him..... or hopefully someday he will realize that. It kills me that his girlfriend and her mother are enabling him like this and it will get worse and I hate to think what he will do to them.... but that is not my problem at this point. Thanks for all your thoughts and support. It helps.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toughlovin, post: 419233"] I think his point was addicts always look for the alternative plan to facing their addiction and themselves. His coming back here and living with his girlfriend was his alternative plan... and as a parent if I could cut that plan off he would have no where else to turn but facing himself where he was. That made sense to me and I tried to feel out the girlfriend. What I found out from doing that is my son has not changed, he is doing the same old thing and he is trying to escape the hard work of recovery. It was probably not a good move in terms of our relationship but at this point I don't even think that matters. We can't have a good relationship as long as he is running away from himself. I can do no more. So I am done.... and I realize I need a break from him and his drama. I am sure he won't contact us for awhile and that is probably good although it will be hard. I feel very sad but I also know I will survive this... I am not going to let myself get into the pain as I have in the past. I am there in the moment but I will go on. I will find a way to keep detaching and have a happy life. I have to for the myself, my husband and my daughter. I think he knows we love him and I suspect he knows my trying to contact his girlfriend was because I love him..... or hopefully someday he will realize that. It kills me that his girlfriend and her mother are enabling him like this and it will get worse and I hate to think what he will do to them.... but that is not my problem at this point. Thanks for all your thoughts and support. It helps. [/QUOTE]
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