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<blockquote data-quote="Dancerat" data-source="post: 608274" data-attributes="member: 14984"><p>Oh Midwest Mom, you are right, you are right. </p><p></p><p>I have to remind myself I'm not really dealing with normal. Yes, normally my response would be, "of course your friends can stay, of course I will help..." But I have to keep reminding myself that we are not in this situation because of normal behavior. And so, it's difficult for me to pretend its okay for him to come over and make sandwiches and macaroni and cheese and then scurry it back to a motel so she can screech at him all night. </p><p></p><p>Where did I fail as a mother? </p><p></p><p>So, I just took a break. He called and asked if I could start some macaroni for him. Yes, I broke down and made a gift box of food. But, when he looked at me with those puppy eyes and asked if she could come in because it was raining outside, she was in his car. I took a deep breath and said, she chose to come over here knowing the rules. No, she cannot come in. He said I was inhumane, as I was ladling out homemade chicken and rice into my ikea Tupperware and finding condiments and fresh juice from the fridge. I kept my mouth shut, and told him I loved him as I put the food into a box so it wouldn't spill. He said inhumane, again, as I made ham and Swiss cheese sandwiches and covered them with napkins. Okay, so I left the lettuce off. That was my moment of meanness. I'm human. </p><p></p><p>I looked at him and thought well, there are going to be a lot of rainy nights in the near future. She is not going to snake her way into my house that way. And he isn't going to push the line again either. He hugged us both and told us that he loved us. And tootled off. I'm perplexed as to how he is paying for this motel because I'm pretty sure he's running out of money. Well, maybe she has some money to pay. It's a mystery. </p><p></p><p>But I did keep the line intact. I feel like it's a battle and I'm holding a defense. Argh!! </p><p></p><p>On a bright note, I think I'm feeling a little better and my cold is slightly gone. That's good.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Dancerat, post: 608274, member: 14984"] Oh Midwest Mom, you are right, you are right. I have to remind myself I'm not really dealing with normal. Yes, normally my response would be, "of course your friends can stay, of course I will help..." But I have to keep reminding myself that we are not in this situation because of normal behavior. And so, it's difficult for me to pretend its okay for him to come over and make sandwiches and macaroni and cheese and then scurry it back to a motel so she can screech at him all night. Where did I fail as a mother? So, I just took a break. He called and asked if I could start some macaroni for him. Yes, I broke down and made a gift box of food. But, when he looked at me with those puppy eyes and asked if she could come in because it was raining outside, she was in his car. I took a deep breath and said, she chose to come over here knowing the rules. No, she cannot come in. He said I was inhumane, as I was ladling out homemade chicken and rice into my ikea Tupperware and finding condiments and fresh juice from the fridge. I kept my mouth shut, and told him I loved him as I put the food into a box so it wouldn't spill. He said inhumane, again, as I made ham and Swiss cheese sandwiches and covered them with napkins. Okay, so I left the lettuce off. That was my moment of meanness. I'm human. I looked at him and thought well, there are going to be a lot of rainy nights in the near future. She is not going to snake her way into my house that way. And he isn't going to push the line again either. He hugged us both and told us that he loved us. And tootled off. I'm perplexed as to how he is paying for this motel because I'm pretty sure he's running out of money. Well, maybe she has some money to pay. It's a mystery. But I did keep the line intact. I feel like it's a battle and I'm holding a defense. Argh!! On a bright note, I think I'm feeling a little better and my cold is slightly gone. That's good. [/QUOTE]
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