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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 652429" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Why is it wrong to tell her yourself if he doesn't? She has to know. Can you really trust Difficult Child to tell you the truth about telling her?</p><p></p><p>If it were me, I'd say something like (staring hard at her) "Look, if he did tell you, you know what I'm talking about. You're going to go to the doctor about this, right? He told you?"</p><p></p><p>What if this were AIDS? I know it isn't, but not only does she NEED to know for sure and our Difficult Child can't be trusted, but I feel it's morally wrong not to be positive she does know.</p><p></p><p>If Difficult Child doesn't want you going places he doesn't want you to go, then he should use protection and handle his STDs himself. You were with him and even in the room with him, just as if he were still a child. To me, it's a no-brainer. You do what's right and don't expect any Difficult Child to do the adult thing. If it messes up his relationship with H, oh well. He is still living under your roof and you are supporting him. The girl needs to know and they both at least need to understand that there are real world consequences for unprotected sex. A baby is already cookin' in one of them. What if he gets H pregnant too?</p><p></p><p>We can only control ourselves. If it were me, I wouldn't feel at all bad about telling H. I'd feel horrible if I didn't. For all we know she is unfaithful and is spreading the joy to other young men. Our Difficult Child did not earn our trust and we can't take their word for anything, even if they swear they told her or aren't having sex and use a Bible. This is JMO, but I'm not at all timid when I feel it's the right thing to do.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 652429, member: 1550"] Why is it wrong to tell her yourself if he doesn't? She has to know. Can you really trust Difficult Child to tell you the truth about telling her? If it were me, I'd say something like (staring hard at her) "Look, if he did tell you, you know what I'm talking about. You're going to go to the doctor about this, right? He told you?" What if this were AIDS? I know it isn't, but not only does she NEED to know for sure and our Difficult Child can't be trusted, but I feel it's morally wrong not to be positive she does know. If Difficult Child doesn't want you going places he doesn't want you to go, then he should use protection and handle his STDs himself. You were with him and even in the room with him, just as if he were still a child. To me, it's a no-brainer. You do what's right and don't expect any Difficult Child to do the adult thing. If it messes up his relationship with H, oh well. He is still living under your roof and you are supporting him. The girl needs to know and they both at least need to understand that there are real world consequences for unprotected sex. A baby is already cookin' in one of them. What if he gets H pregnant too? We can only control ourselves. If it were me, I wouldn't feel at all bad about telling H. I'd feel horrible if I didn't. For all we know she is unfaithful and is spreading the joy to other young men. Our Difficult Child did not earn our trust and we can't take their word for anything, even if they swear they told her or aren't having sex and use a Bible. This is JMO, but I'm not at all timid when I feel it's the right thing to do. [/QUOTE]
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