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<blockquote data-quote="recovering doormat" data-source="post: 258956" data-attributes="member: 5941"><p>Son has been home from diagnostic/detox program for six weeks, just started tutoring last week at 2 hours/day, courtesy of schoold district, while we get their help placing him ina school. He has also been meeting with his juvenile PO and started substance abuse counseling. </p><p> </p><p>Well, we were told to expect some backsliding as far as wanting to hang out with old friends and smoking weed again, and so far he has managed to stay under the urine screen radar...has violated his 7 pm curfew on weekends...but today I really got depressed.</p><p> </p><p>We had a meetign with the first of four Special Education high schools the district will support, and it looked like a great school, only 18 kids, college prep curriculum, but he was so sullen and obnoxious while his dad and I spoke to the director that I doubt very much they will take him, and he just doesn't seem to care what happens to him. He was angry, dropped the "F" bomb at his dad, basically insulted his father and complained that he hated living with him and hated him in general. He wouldn't make eye contact with anyone.</p><p> </p><p>There is something really wrong here and I don't know what to do next. He's sixteen, and we have been focused on him and his emotional problems since he was nine. I think there is something bothering him that fuels this anger (and passive-aggressive behavior, the lateness, dawdling...we were 30 minutes late to the appointment today because he took so long getting ready). It's as if he knows what we want from him and he manipulates us by not cooperating.</p><p> </p><p>I'm torn between wanting to place him in an Residential Treatment Center (RTC),like the diagnostic place recommended, which would come out of our retirement funds, or let the district fiddle around at their own snails pace until they figure out where he should be. But he needs to be ina classroom for a full day. He needs a part time job. Right now he stays up late, sleeps til noon, I attempt to wake him at his dad's house (where he lives) and get him to tutoring by 1 p.m., then back to dad's. The tutor was fuming today because he didn't do his homework.</p><p> </p><p>There's something wrong and I don't know what to do anymore. Rantings of an exhausted mom who has had enough.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recovering doormat, post: 258956, member: 5941"] Son has been home from diagnostic/detox program for six weeks, just started tutoring last week at 2 hours/day, courtesy of schoold district, while we get their help placing him ina school. He has also been meeting with his juvenile PO and started substance abuse counseling. Well, we were told to expect some backsliding as far as wanting to hang out with old friends and smoking weed again, and so far he has managed to stay under the urine screen radar...has violated his 7 pm curfew on weekends...but today I really got depressed. We had a meetign with the first of four Special Education high schools the district will support, and it looked like a great school, only 18 kids, college prep curriculum, but he was so sullen and obnoxious while his dad and I spoke to the director that I doubt very much they will take him, and he just doesn't seem to care what happens to him. He was angry, dropped the "F" bomb at his dad, basically insulted his father and complained that he hated living with him and hated him in general. He wouldn't make eye contact with anyone. There is something really wrong here and I don't know what to do next. He's sixteen, and we have been focused on him and his emotional problems since he was nine. I think there is something bothering him that fuels this anger (and passive-aggressive behavior, the lateness, dawdling...we were 30 minutes late to the appointment today because he took so long getting ready). It's as if he knows what we want from him and he manipulates us by not cooperating. I'm torn between wanting to place him in an Residential Treatment Center (RTC),like the diagnostic place recommended, which would come out of our retirement funds, or let the district fiddle around at their own snails pace until they figure out where he should be. But he needs to be ina classroom for a full day. He needs a part time job. Right now he stays up late, sleeps til noon, I attempt to wake him at his dad's house (where he lives) and get him to tutoring by 1 p.m., then back to dad's. The tutor was fuming today because he didn't do his homework. There's something wrong and I don't know what to do anymore. Rantings of an exhausted mom who has had enough. [/QUOTE]
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