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<blockquote data-quote="jbrain" data-source="post: 259034" data-attributes="member: 3450"><p>For some reason, this line stood out to me. I guess cause it reminds me of what we did with my difficult child 1 and it did absolutely no good. I wish we had focused less on her and more on the other 2 kids who were doing what they should be doing but got no attention. The one with all the problems was the one who got all the attention and when she wasn't getting attention she found a way to do it. </p><p></p><p>She didn't own her own life til she was living on her own. All of our "help" (therapy, caring teachers, and IEP so she could handle school, etc.) was an excuse for her to rebel and basically use it against us.</p><p></p><p>I hate to see you use your retirement funds for an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) (we took out a huge loan and now will not be able to retire for a long time and also cannot help our other 2 kids the way we would like) when it is likely he will just revert when he comes out.</p><p></p><p>I know I sound bitter and pessimistic, I just think your difficult child is not going to accept help and in fact the more you help him the more of a chance it is for him to basically say "s?rew you"--he can be in control of the situation by having you go to great lengths to help him and then sabotage it all.</p><p></p><p>Jane</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="jbrain, post: 259034, member: 3450"] For some reason, this line stood out to me. I guess cause it reminds me of what we did with my difficult child 1 and it did absolutely no good. I wish we had focused less on her and more on the other 2 kids who were doing what they should be doing but got no attention. The one with all the problems was the one who got all the attention and when she wasn't getting attention she found a way to do it. She didn't own her own life til she was living on her own. All of our "help" (therapy, caring teachers, and IEP so she could handle school, etc.) was an excuse for her to rebel and basically use it against us. I hate to see you use your retirement funds for an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) (we took out a huge loan and now will not be able to retire for a long time and also cannot help our other 2 kids the way we would like) when it is likely he will just revert when he comes out. I know I sound bitter and pessimistic, I just think your difficult child is not going to accept help and in fact the more you help him the more of a chance it is for him to basically say "s?rew you"--he can be in control of the situation by having you go to great lengths to help him and then sabotage it all. Jane [/QUOTE]
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