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<blockquote data-quote="RN0441" data-source="post: 700072" data-attributes="member: 15032"><p>Jodie</p><p></p><p>I agree that it is VERY hard to detach from our Difficult Child that we love so much and have such high hopes for.</p><p></p><p>My son just turned 21 so hasn't really been an adult that long. I use the term adult age wise, but mind wise he is very young thinking. </p><p></p><p>I have had to cut off my communication with him completely recently for my own mental well being. He has been struggling with addiction for five years and I am just worn out. I know that nothing I say or do will change anything HE does until HE is ready. If he is every ready. That is a hard pill to swallow. Why won't he just listen? The frustration!!!</p><p></p><p>Thank God for my wonderful husband, who is normally very low on patience, for taking over. I told him I just can't do it anymore. He saw the toll it was taking on me. I get my hopes up just to be let down again. Each time it is such a blow to my whole being. I just want to walk away.</p><p></p><p>My husband is trying so hard to stay optimistic. He thinks I'm negative and a pessimist at times when dealing with our son, but I guess he doesn't really understand that I put my whole heart and soul into my son and I am now depleted. I have nothing more to give to him. Especially when I gave it all and it was all in vain.</p><p></p><p>You really need to use this time to repair yourself from everything that has happened and NOT use it to stress over what the future holds. Your son will turn it around when HE wants to and not a minute before that. They aren't on our timetable unfortunately.</p><p><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/staystrong.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":staystrong:" title="staystrong :staystrong:" data-shortname=":staystrong:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="RN0441, post: 700072, member: 15032"] Jodie I agree that it is VERY hard to detach from our Difficult Child that we love so much and have such high hopes for. My son just turned 21 so hasn't really been an adult that long. I use the term adult age wise, but mind wise he is very young thinking. I have had to cut off my communication with him completely recently for my own mental well being. He has been struggling with addiction for five years and I am just worn out. I know that nothing I say or do will change anything HE does until HE is ready. If he is every ready. That is a hard pill to swallow. Why won't he just listen? The frustration!!! Thank God for my wonderful husband, who is normally very low on patience, for taking over. I told him I just can't do it anymore. He saw the toll it was taking on me. I get my hopes up just to be let down again. Each time it is such a blow to my whole being. I just want to walk away. My husband is trying so hard to stay optimistic. He thinks I'm negative and a pessimist at times when dealing with our son, but I guess he doesn't really understand that I put my whole heart and soul into my son and I am now depleted. I have nothing more to give to him. Especially when I gave it all and it was all in vain. You really need to use this time to repair yourself from everything that has happened and NOT use it to stress over what the future holds. Your son will turn it around when HE wants to and not a minute before that. They aren't on our timetable unfortunately. :staystrong: [/QUOTE]
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