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<blockquote data-quote="Weary Mother" data-source="post: 702286" data-attributes="member: 20487"><p>Childofmine: Thanks, good to see you here again. Yes I am better than when I first came for sure. And I am working on one day at a time. I seem to be able to do so, then something happens or a thought occurs to me and once again I am off worrying about the what ifs. What if he ends up again on drugs, what if he doesnt and still has homeless problems, or cant find work and is trying really hard. I guess that the answer to that is to let go and let that be his to deal with, but Oh my the mothering instinct dies hard. Not that it all has to die, but with people like me who have overmothered and overworried and been over stressed with life/death behaviour of difficult children, it is almost like someone in overeaters anon, you gotta eat, so that in iteslf invites the problem. Ya know what I mean? But I am cautious with him even though now he is better, getting out and walking when he can and wanting to do better, but it can change and I have to be aware of that so that I am not blindsided by this. I like what you say about enjoying the talks, we are having some also, even though it is through the jail email. I guess it's like I told he recently, he is like a familiar stranger due to the 20 year long addiction and his absence from any family involvment except for his life/death problems that come up. so, I will try harder as you say for living in the here and now!!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Weary Mother, post: 702286, member: 20487"] Childofmine: Thanks, good to see you here again. Yes I am better than when I first came for sure. And I am working on one day at a time. I seem to be able to do so, then something happens or a thought occurs to me and once again I am off worrying about the what ifs. What if he ends up again on drugs, what if he doesnt and still has homeless problems, or cant find work and is trying really hard. I guess that the answer to that is to let go and let that be his to deal with, but Oh my the mothering instinct dies hard. Not that it all has to die, but with people like me who have overmothered and overworried and been over stressed with life/death behaviour of difficult children, it is almost like someone in overeaters anon, you gotta eat, so that in iteslf invites the problem. Ya know what I mean? But I am cautious with him even though now he is better, getting out and walking when he can and wanting to do better, but it can change and I have to be aware of that so that I am not blindsided by this. I like what you say about enjoying the talks, we are having some also, even though it is through the jail email. I guess it's like I told he recently, he is like a familiar stranger due to the 20 year long addiction and his absence from any family involvment except for his life/death problems that come up. so, I will try harder as you say for living in the here and now!!! [/QUOTE]
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