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<blockquote data-quote="Kathy813" data-source="post: 109146" data-attributes="member: 1967"><p>in my humble opinion, you are too involved in the homework process. It is an easy trap to fall into ~ I did it myself. </p><p></p><p>I recommend the followoing books on this subject:</p><p></p><p><em>Ending the Homework Hassle</em> by John Rosemond and <em>Homework without Tears</em> by Lee Canter.</p><p></p><p>Basically, you need to put the responsibility on the child. Calmly explain that the homework is her job to finish not yours so you are no longer available to help. Give her a time frame to get it done and at the end of that time, put up the books and say nothing more about it. If she hasn't done the homework or hasn't finished the homework, simply write a note to her teacher saying that she did not finish the assignment and ask for appropriate consequences at school.</p><p></p><p>Here is a comment made about the Rosemond book on Amazon:</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I think it is 100% dead on. I wish I had someone tell me that years ago when my difficult child was in school. Helping and pushing her as much as I did made her feel like she was incapable of accomplishing things on her own. I think that affects her to this day.</p><p></p><p>Please don't misunderstand me. I respectfully disagree with MWM on the importance of doing homework. I see every day the consequences of high school students who don't do their homework. They simply do not master the material and it has a snowball effect. I do not believe that you can master higher level mathematics (I teach Algebra 2) without doing practice problems.</p><p></p><p>However, at your difficult child's age, learning to be responsible and doing homework on her own is more important than the content (again in my humble opinion).</p><p></p><p>~Kathy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Kathy813, post: 109146, member: 1967"] in my humble opinion, you are too involved in the homework process. It is an easy trap to fall into ~ I did it myself. I recommend the followoing books on this subject: [I]Ending the Homework Hassle[/I] by John Rosemond and [I]Homework without Tears[/I] by Lee Canter. Basically, you need to put the responsibility on the child. Calmly explain that the homework is her job to finish not yours so you are no longer available to help. Give her a time frame to get it done and at the end of that time, put up the books and say nothing more about it. If she hasn't done the homework or hasn't finished the homework, simply write a note to her teacher saying that she did not finish the assignment and ask for appropriate consequences at school. Here is a comment made about the Rosemond book on Amazon: I think it is 100% dead on. I wish I had someone tell me that years ago when my difficult child was in school. Helping and pushing her as much as I did made her feel like she was incapable of accomplishing things on her own. I think that affects her to this day. Please don't misunderstand me. I respectfully disagree with MWM on the importance of doing homework. I see every day the consequences of high school students who don't do their homework. They simply do not master the material and it has a snowball effect. I do not believe that you can master higher level mathematics (I teach Algebra 2) without doing practice problems. However, at your difficult child's age, learning to be responsible and doing homework on her own is more important than the content (again in my humble opinion). ~Kathy [/QUOTE]
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