difficult child just finished her math homework. Associative and commutative properties, 4th grade math. So she has no clue as to what properties pertain to each problem and begins to scribble anything down. I offer help and try to explain to her. She has no interest in me trying to explain it to her. In fact, she just shuts down and gets angry. I would love to help her, but I can't. I am not the person she will accept it from. So, I emailed her teacher and told her she doesn't get it and can she make sure difficult child gets the appropriate help with this section. I also told her the best I can do is make sure the teacher is aware of what difficult child doesn't know, but I can't be the one to help her. I must say it felt empowering to place this back on the school's shoulders. I have learned my lesson from last year when homework was piled on every night and life was miserable. She just shuts down on me and I am not going to get into that fight. I have other valuable things to teach her and I have to let school do their job with her. Here's to no more homework meltdowns!