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<blockquote data-quote="TerryJ2" data-source="post: 53310" data-attributes="member: 3419"><p>Pamela, I can identify!</p><p>Luckily, difficult child pulled a couple of stunts while he didn't know husband was watching. That helped a bit.</p><p>In re: to some of your responses toward your difficult child... I would not be asking him to move over so you can put sheets on his bed; I know you have typed in "coordination disorder," but he's coordinated enough to make his own bed, isn't he? My difficult child tries that stunt and I either walk away and leave the sheets in a pile, or don't give him sheets at all and leave him with-an empty mattress. It works! (I am not his slave.) I only have to do it a couple of times a month now. (He's had a bare mattress more often than not, LOL!)</p><p>In re: to the screaming, it took us forever to get our difficult child to care about anything. We finally figured out it was football cards, baseball cards, and computer time. When he screamed or mouthed off, I walked over to the computer with-o a word and took away the mouse. Of course, he screamed louder (you can imagine!!!!). But I didn't give it back until he went for several days with-o screaming at me. </p><p>All that is to say, I don't think you've found your difficult child's trigger yet. Find the thing that makes him the angriest and most violent and that's it! Sounds mean, but you've got to learn to work with-it. In addition, once you do, it will teach him how to control himself. After his meltdowns, there is a "teachable moment," and that's when you can talk it over. Don't bother discussing things when he's in the middle of a fit. Or even when he's being generally "bratty."</p><p></p><p>Sometimes my difficult child doesn't understand his intonation and volume... for eg., last night I followed him into the bathroom, thinking he was going to brush his teeth, and he spun on his heel and hissed and screamed at me, "Get OUT! I'm going to the bathroom!" </p><p>Geez, I felt like I'd been stabbed. I was going to ask him if he wanted to wear his Little League shirt to the new baseball camp in the a.m.</p><p>I went downstairs and a few min. later, he came into the kitchen, and in a sweet, well modulated voice, said, "What were you going to ask me?"</p><p>He truly didn't get it. (We are trying to get a speech/language testing appointment. but it's like Mission Impossible... he'll be 18 by the time I get one!)</p><p></p><p>I know what you mean by coping. I had a meldown a few weeks ago and it was actually the best thing that ever happened to me because with-o mom in the picture, nothing operates smoothly. It really brought things to a head, and clarified for me, what is important to me.</p><p></p><p>{{cyberhugs}}</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TerryJ2, post: 53310, member: 3419"] Pamela, I can identify! Luckily, difficult child pulled a couple of stunts while he didn't know husband was watching. That helped a bit. In re: to some of your responses toward your difficult child... I would not be asking him to move over so you can put sheets on his bed; I know you have typed in "coordination disorder," but he's coordinated enough to make his own bed, isn't he? My difficult child tries that stunt and I either walk away and leave the sheets in a pile, or don't give him sheets at all and leave him with-an empty mattress. It works! (I am not his slave.) I only have to do it a couple of times a month now. (He's had a bare mattress more often than not, LOL!) In re: to the screaming, it took us forever to get our difficult child to care about anything. We finally figured out it was football cards, baseball cards, and computer time. When he screamed or mouthed off, I walked over to the computer with-o a word and took away the mouse. Of course, he screamed louder (you can imagine!!!!). But I didn't give it back until he went for several days with-o screaming at me. All that is to say, I don't think you've found your difficult child's trigger yet. Find the thing that makes him the angriest and most violent and that's it! Sounds mean, but you've got to learn to work with-it. In addition, once you do, it will teach him how to control himself. After his meltdowns, there is a "teachable moment," and that's when you can talk it over. Don't bother discussing things when he's in the middle of a fit. Or even when he's being generally "bratty." Sometimes my difficult child doesn't understand his intonation and volume... for eg., last night I followed him into the bathroom, thinking he was going to brush his teeth, and he spun on his heel and hissed and screamed at me, "Get OUT! I'm going to the bathroom!" Geez, I felt like I'd been stabbed. I was going to ask him if he wanted to wear his Little League shirt to the new baseball camp in the a.m. I went downstairs and a few min. later, he came into the kitchen, and in a sweet, well modulated voice, said, "What were you going to ask me?" He truly didn't get it. (We are trying to get a speech/language testing appointment. but it's like Mission Impossible... he'll be 18 by the time I get one!) I know what you mean by coping. I had a meldown a few weeks ago and it was actually the best thing that ever happened to me because with-o mom in the picture, nothing operates smoothly. It really brought things to a head, and clarified for me, what is important to me. {{cyberhugs}} [/QUOTE]
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