This is all part and parcel of difficult child 1's issues right now -- the danged oppositional belligerence that's been bleeding through in the evenings and now that we've halved the patch it's coming out earlier in the afternoon. I'm trying very hard to not allow my feelings to get bent out of shape and escalate because it can get very ugly very fast if I'm not careful. I purposely did not tax myself during the day so that I'd have the mental/emotional/physical stamina to hold myself together when he's home. I'm trying to be firm and not allow him to intimidate me. I'm trying to be patient. Trying to explain things simply and clearly. He yells that he can't help it, that he's mad at himself and taking it out on everyone else. Okay so I guess it's good that he recognizes what's going on. Not okay that he's doing this to everyone else, though. He finally got his homework done after lying to me about it and then knuckling down to finish it after I calmly called his bluff and asked to see the assignment planner and the completed work. I didn't get emotional about it, I just stated that he had to finish X before I would consider him finished for the night. Maybe we'll be able to make some solid plans with the psychiatrist this week or next and get him back on track. I hope, I hope, I hope.