Hoovering is when a personality disordered human being tries to suck us back into fighting. This can be done, often after a lack of contact, by a phone call, a phony apology, postings on internet about you that she or he hopes you read (such as FB or some forum you are known to post on (cough) ), doing SOMETHING to engage you and then...zap...they have you in their web again. And the cycle repeats. I refuse to be hoovered anymore or drawn back in. Wondered if this rang a bell for anybody. There really don't need to be any answers here. This post was just FYI have a great, serene day. I'm spending it with hubby, Jumper and FOOTBALL all day, all the time. I'm a huge football fan and am going to cry the last game of the season.