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<blockquote data-quote="timer lady" data-source="post: 38824" data-attributes="member: 393"><p>Ahhhhh, difficult children & raging hormones. I'm not saying that's the entire problem but it sure isn't helping.</p><p></p><p>Rather than yelling about missing the bus, can you be sympathetic? Say something like "I'm sorry to hear that? What are you going to do about it? How can I help?" I'd also encourage difficult child to lay out her clothes & shoes the night before with her backpack at the front door - waiting. kt & I spend a lot of time choosing the "right" outfit of the day (will it go with my nail polish, mom?)</p><p></p><p>(I have to do this daily & believe me, it's hard not to scream.) However, sympathy & understanding for whatever reason, helps kt become more aware of her choices & have pushed her (baby steps) to be a bit more responsible in making choices. It certainly has lessened the morning struggles.</p><p></p><p>On another note, I calmly comment on the huge emotions that kt (or wm) must be feeling to display such anger, defiance, frustration, happiness, silliness, whatever. I help kt decide which emotion she's feeling & try to help her sort it out.</p><p></p><p>I know that anger; I know that destruction of property. It's ugly. Our tact here is to redirect - to empathize with the huge emotions, confusion that the tweedles must be feeling. For kt it's an acknowledgment of her as a being versus a lost mentally ill child. (For over the top physical aggression toward herself or others it's a call to crisis team or a trip to ER.)</p><p></p><p>I seem to be rambling a bit this morning - I hope you can find something here that helps.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="timer lady, post: 38824, member: 393"] Ahhhhh, difficult children & raging hormones. I'm not saying that's the entire problem but it sure isn't helping. Rather than yelling about missing the bus, can you be sympathetic? Say something like "I'm sorry to hear that? What are you going to do about it? How can I help?" I'd also encourage difficult child to lay out her clothes & shoes the night before with her backpack at the front door - waiting. kt & I spend a lot of time choosing the "right" outfit of the day (will it go with my nail polish, mom?) (I have to do this daily & believe me, it's hard not to scream.) However, sympathy & understanding for whatever reason, helps kt become more aware of her choices & have pushed her (baby steps) to be a bit more responsible in making choices. It certainly has lessened the morning struggles. On another note, I calmly comment on the huge emotions that kt (or wm) must be feeling to display such anger, defiance, frustration, happiness, silliness, whatever. I help kt decide which emotion she's feeling & try to help her sort it out. I know that anger; I know that destruction of property. It's ugly. Our tact here is to redirect - to empathize with the huge emotions, confusion that the tweedles must be feeling. For kt it's an acknowledgment of her as a being versus a lost mentally ill child. (For over the top physical aggression toward herself or others it's a call to crisis team or a trip to ER.) I seem to be rambling a bit this morning - I hope you can find something here that helps. [/QUOTE]
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